Obsessed With Complexion

What do artists like Mya, Faith Evans, Eve, Mariah Carey and Beyonce all have in common? Yes they are all women and yes they all can sing, but there is something else——-they’re all light skin. When I was growing up in the late 90’s, early 2000’s, these women were extremely popular and in my mind it was because they were lighter skinned than me. Now rewind back to when I was younger, like five years old, I was in kindergarten and my first friend was mixed with black and white; she was cute, smart, and had nice hair. I had a crush on this boy, (I was 5, don’t judge), and I would stare at him but never speak because I was SOOOOO SHY, but I would see him talk to my friend. Either he liked her or spoke to her “just because.” At the time I didn’t think it was because she was light skin or not but as I grew up, I would start connecting dots.

Fast Forward to the 5th grade, I had a small crush on a guy. I had liked him since the 3rd grade. We had small talk but I think he was eyeing my friend–the SAME friend from Kindergarten. How do I know? Well he grabbed her booty on a school field trip. I was shocked and kind of mad but she said she didn’t like him, so I guess he was just being a guy. Moving along to the 6th grade, I had a crush on a different guy, he was perfect brown skin, nice, perfect height. We would chit chat but I guess he only saw me as the “homegirl.” Any who, he had a crush on my friend AGAIN, the SAME friend from kindergarten. Well him and my friend ended up kissing each other, it was a dare I suppose. I was pissed yet again, but mind you, no one ever knew I had crushes on these boys, not even my friend, so how would she had known anyway? I guess she had the juice, besides her being super smart and pretty, she was a nice person.  By that time I had already connected those dots and realized that light-skin girls get all the guys. How can you blame me, she had been winning since kindergarten.

So around that elementary/middle school time period,  I was attracted to light skinned guys for the most part like my the 3rd grade crush, artist like Ginuwine, and my all-time favorite, Lil Fizz from B2k, he was “bae.” Any who, I was never told that my skin color, brown skin, was beautiful. One artist who I can truly remember, who was HOT even though she wasn’t light skin was Aaliyah (some what debatable), and she didn’t have to try hard. She was idolized even after her death in 2001. She had long hair, brown skin, perfect shape, and of course a beautiful voice. She was noticed nationwide. Artists like Lauryn Hill and Erykah Badu, who were beautiful as well and had eccentric views, started falling out of the limelight after a while. They were rare perfect images of celebrity brown skin women, especially since they had an Afrocentric Style, like head wraps, Afros and natural Locs hair. The music industry has given us, the viewers, the perception that only light skin women or women of a mixed race, are beautiful–especially in music videos.

( Sorry for my long background story lol)

It took me awhile, probably until late high school or early college to realize that all black is beautiful. When I was younger, around the age of 9 or 10, I use to wish I was light skin because of all the praise and attention that I would see of the skin tone. It sounds crazy but it was the truth. Besides having insecurities about my lanky body, big feet and long head, I also had skin complexion issues. Hearing sayings like “she cute for a dark skin girl” didn’t make it any better.

I’m at the age now where I’m content with my complexion and this whole dark skin vs. light skin war doesn’t phase me. We are who we are and everyone is different. Albino is beautiful. White is beautiful. Light skin is beautiful. Dark skin is beautiful. CHARCOAL BLACK SKIN  is beautiful.




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Prince Dead at 57: What Really Happened?


Legendary pop singer Prince has passed away at the young at of 57.

It was reported last week by TMZ that Prince was sick with the flu. He canceled two shows on April 7 but on Thursday, April 14, he did a show in Atlanta, Georgia. Even though he was still sick, Prince pushed through his performance and later boarded his private jet. That same night, the jet made an emergency landing in Moline, Illinois because Prince’s illness was getting worse. He went to the hospital and was discharged within hours and sent home.

On Saturday night around midnight or so, the singer popped up at a $10 dance party at Paisley Park compound, where he stayed at. Prince  wanted to assure fans that he was indeed alive. He showed off his guitar and piano skills. He told the audience “Wait a few days before you waste any prayers.”

photo credit: tmz.com


Sadly it was announced this morning that the singer was found unresponsive at his residence at Paisley Park. He would have been 58 years old on June 7. Rest in Peace!

Now this is what I think is sketchy, how is it that he three celebrities have died in the span of 3 days? We’ve got Doris Roberts, from Everybody Loves Raymond, who passed away Sunday April 17 in her sleep at the age of 90. Then WWE Wrestler Chyna died yesterday Wednesdat April 20 of a “possible overdose” according to TMZ.



I always heard that death come in threes but man, thee deaths are days apart. May all these celebrities rest I peace.

UPDATE: TMZ reported LIVE on their Facebook page at 7:06p that last week when Prince’s jet took the emergency landing in Moline, Illinois and taken to the hospital, he was being treated for a drug overdose (THE DRUG IS UNKNOWN AT THIS TIME). The doctor there gave him a “save shot” which is a shot that calms you down from the side effects of the drug that you took. Prince was suppose to stay in the hospital for 24 hours and he would have under one condition and that was if he got a private room. There weren’t any private rooms in the hospital so he left. TMZ confirmed their information with multiple sources, so they say. A toxicology report will be performed but it will take two weeks for the results to come back

I will keep you updated and I find out more information.

UPDATE: April 22, 2016: TMZ has confirmed with the hospital in Moline, Illinois that the drug Prince overdosed on, when his jet had to take the emergency landing, was Percoet. So there could have been a painkiller issue related to his death. There is m0re information to come.


Sources: TMZ.com; fox2news.com

Featured image photo credit: bet.com

Chyna photo credit: ktrs.com

Doris Roberts photo credit: intouchweekly.com

Harriet Tubman: New Face on the $20 Bill

BIG history was announced today. According to CNN, U.S Treasurer Jack Lew confirmed that Harriet Tubman will be the new face on the FRONT of the 20 dollar bill.  She is the first African American to be on any currency, and to add to that, she’s a woman as well.

Former President Andrew Jackson will still be on the 20 dollar bill but he’s going on the back. How ironic is it that Jackson was a slave owner and he’s sharing a dollar bill with a former slave?  According to officials, they didn’t want to completely remove Jackson from the bill because of his contributions to American History. He opened up the White House to the American people back then, but clearly black people weren’t invited so I guess it wasn’t open to ALL American people.

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Other changes to the dollars bills are:  Alexander Hamilton staying on the front of the 10 dollar bill but on the back will be a montage of women such as Lucretia Mott, women’s rights activist; Sojourner Truth, Civil Rights and Women Rights Activist; Susan B Anthony, feminist and social reformer; Elizabeth Cady Stanton, social activist; and Alice Paul, American suffragist. The new bill is expected to start circulating in 2020. As far as the five dollar bill goes, President Abraham Lincoln is going to continue to stay on the front, and on the back will feature the Lincoln Memorial because of its historic events held there. To add to that, Martin Luther King Jr will be alongside with the Memorial.


Here’s some memes that folks put on social showing their humor and excitement of the announcement:









Danii Gold out!!!

Featured image photo credit: bbc.com
Sources: cnn.money.com