One thing that grinds my gears is when people try to down play situations, especially when it’s feelings and even money involved. To me, if you’re going to bring up a situation up, state the facts and not downplay or sweep it under a rug. To me, there are some steps to go by to somewhat get closure out of those situations, if not closure then at least get your feelings off your chest
Step 1: Acknowledge it.
When your in some kind of situation, the best thing to do is acknowledge what you did wrong or have the other person acknowledge what they did wrong to you, that way everything is put on the table.
Step 2: Apologize
This is the step where you know you fucked up and you need to say that in the form of an apology. Even if you didn’t have ill intentions, still apologize for your actions and/or words and actually MEAN IT! An “I’m Sorry for…” blah blah blah
Step 3: How Can We Move On…or Not
Once the acknowledgement of wrongdoing has been stated and the apology /apologies were said, how can you move on? Some people think, “an apology isn’t enough, that doesn’t change anything.” This is true and that’s when you can decide not to move forward with the person by simply cutting them off. ALSO if you don’t move on from situation, still communicate with that person on how y’all relationship stands now. Either you fuck with them, even at a distance, or you don’t at all. Whether it’s speaking to them in passing or not at all but the importance of this all is COMMUNICATION. You don’t want any assumptions left wondering in your brain because as woman myself, I KNOW I can overthink situations. The best thing you can do is speak on it. Honesty is key and again COMMUNICATION!