Lola The Don Talks Being a Female DJ, Her Self-Love Journey and Socialogy Care Company

The “Don” is defined as someone who is respected by many people, a leader, a king, or in this sense a Queen. Lola The Don is respected by many and says she’s never walked into a room that she didn’t deserve to be in.  Lola is DJ in a male dominated industry, a nursing student, and importantly a self-care advocate. She talks about her highs, lows and everything in between that it took for her to get to her happy place that she’s in now. Check out her interview below.

DG: You’re an entrepreneur, what all businesses do you have under your belt?

Lola The Don: The most prominent is Socialogy Care Company, that’s the most visible right now.

DG: With Socialogy Care Company, there are 3 other co-creators. What all services do you all provide?

Lola The Don: We are a health and wellness care company. We get asked a lot if we are health gurus and people would come to us for health-related advice, and I would tell them that is not at all what we are. We are not the point of contact for health-related advice, but what we are is the point of contact for directing you to those people who can give you the correct health advice. We’re the liaison, the middleman, between the community and health & wellness service providers. Those providers, for us, are anyone that offer some sort of services tailored to health & wellness; that could be a personal trainer, a fitness instructor, a gym, a healthy eatery, a person who makes body butter, a person who makes hair care products, even a financial specialist because good credit and finances is a part of health & wellness. Anything you can think of that is health & wellness related, we try to help the community find their services.

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DG: What was your reasoning for wanting to start/become a co-creator of Socialogy Care Company?

Lola The Don: I was looking for health and wellness resources and did not know where to start. So, I wanted to help others who were having this same issue. So I decided to create something that would be a hub for people to be able to come and search for these health and wellness related resources.” So, we, the creators of Socialogy Care Company, take the task of you having to use Google and provide you with the information on our website and look into our database to find the resources you need.

“Life be life-ing”

DG: Do you have a background in health & wellness?

Lola The Don: Yes, I got my bachelor’s in Socialogy, then I went into the healthcare field as a case manager, which is like a baby social worker. I sat on the clinical team at a substance abuse treatment center for adolescent boys. It was heavy work and my first introduction to healthcare as a whole. I did that under two years and loved the experience and the children I worked it; they still reach out to me, to this day. That was the biggest take away from that job. Unfortunately, there was not a lot of pay in the field as a case manager, so I went back to school after doing some praying, soul searching, meditating and consulting with my higher powerful (shoutout to GOD), and I went back to school for nursing. I’ve always known that health & wellness was somehow my calling. So I started nursing school, then “Life started lifing” so I tabled it for a second and now I’m back in nursing school.

“I know you, I fuck with you”

DG: I’ve seen on your social media that you decided to give up alcohol and dating for a year. What prompted you to do that?

Lola The Don: I experienced a breakup a year ago. During that hard breakup, my mental health plummeted, and I fell into a state of depression. Prior to the relationship with him, I never really had anxiety but it started to develop within that relationship and it was really exasperating. That is something I look back on and it reinforces me stay on top of my mental health. After a couple weeks of having a pity party, I started taking the necessary steps for me to feel whole again; one of those things was letting go of drinking. When I would go through hard things, I would resort to drinking instead of letting myself feel feelings and healthily dealing with them. The second thing I gave up was dating and became celibate. I never sat with myself for an extended period of time as an adult. I was either in a relationship or always dating and that’s a form of running away from yourself, in my opinion.  I realized that when you get with someone, you sometimes unconsciously lose  yourself within that person and when/if that person leaves, they will take a piece of you with them and you have nothing. So, I made a vow to myself that I will never let that happen to me again. It was equally the most grueling time in my life as it was the most rewarding. I stayed on path and at the end of it, I truly believe that certain blessings started to flow in and the biggest blessing was finally looking in the mirror and saying “I know you, I fuck with you” and no one can touch that. After this one-year cleanse, I met a guy and he’s very nice, it’s refreshing, and I am able to be in that space and pour into that but still have my boundaries and know who I am.

I can not have this business and not walk the walk and talk the talk.”

DG: What other practices do you do for your own personal health and wellness besides not drinking, in a sense of self-care? How are you practicing what you preach in Socialogy Care Co.?

Lola The Don: I can not have this business and not walk the walk and talk the talk. Firstly, I feel that what I put in my body physically (eat and drink) and spiritually (what I read, watch and listen to) matters. No, I’m not a saint eating the right things and listening to the purest things, but I do try to incorporate those things into my lifestyle regularly. I’m a big water drinker, I rarely drink anything besides that. Also, I pour positives things in my life like positive podcasts or YouTube videos. If I’m not listening to something self-care related, I’m listening to something business related. One of my favorite podcasts, The Wall Street Journal Secret to Wealthy Women and they talk about how they acquired their wealth and success. I love to journal, even though sometimes I find myself doing it on my phone instead of actually writing it. Two of the biggest things for me, self-care related, is practicing mindfulness; when I wake up in the morning, the first 30 minutes are important, so I don’t check my phone and I talk to God. The other is practicing positive self-talk. I don’t talk down on myself.

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DG: With you going to nursing school, how are you going to implement your studies the Socialogy Care Company?

Lola The Don: Right now, I don’t have the credentials behind my name, yet, but what I do have is my research and my personal experiences. Once I get my credentials, that’ll make me much more credible to my subscribers.

DG: What events does Socialogy Care Company have coming up?

Lola The Don: Last year, our was goal was to produce an event every month and we were able to do that, whether it be one that we put on ourselves or one that we partnered with a health care professional or orchestrated a volunteer session. This year our goal has been to mainly show up at other people’s events and support them.

We are in the process of working on our first annual citywide wellness retreat. It’ll be a weekend getaway with everybody without breakout topics about financial, mental health, prayer circles, and just networking overall. We want to be able to produce this event every year.

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“I’m coming back to buy the building of all those doors that were once closed on me.” 

DG: Switching the focus to your DJ career. Is it intimidating being in a predominantly male industry?

Lola The Don: On the surface, generally speaking, sure, it could be intimidating for people. On a personal level, no. I actually embrace it and welcome it. I had a recent encounter not to long ago. I was booked to host an event by a good friend of mine, and I’ve hosted many events for him in the past before. Once I got to the venue, I went to the DJ booth and asked where the mic was because I was the host for the evening. The guy told me I wasn’t getting the mic and I was confused of course but I didn’t really trip off it too hard. I did reiterate that I was booked to host. He eventually hands me the mic and I was on it for a while, but he ended up requesting it back so I figured that we would go back and forth on the mic which is fine. I step away for a minute and come back to another guy being on the mic who is respected around and known for hosting. I respect that and his craft. So, I asked him was he hosting with me and he said no, he was only going to be on the mic and I told him, like I told the previous guy, that I was booked to be on the mic as well. He told me he was getting paid to host too. I’m mature enough to let it go, I got paid already so I decided to kick it with my friends. But during the times I did have the mic and was hosting, I noticed they kept turning my mic down. It was crazy and I thought “What is happening?” and “where is this energy coming from?” I think it is wack when a guy hates on a girl, we are in two totally different lanes. This is definitely a male dominant industry and I don’t think it is a career for the faint heart, If you are a woman. We as women are required to show up 10 times more prepared so we can rightfully demand the respect that we are owed. There are times when I get doubt or side-eyed from people who may have concerns of why I get/got booked for things. I’m sure there are people think I got booked for a gig because I am a woman or for my looks. It goes back to me knowing what I’m capable of and qualified for. I don’t get discouraged or deterred from situations like that. My mindset is “I’m coming back to buy the building of all those doors that were once closed on me.” 

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“ As a woman, I always want to be seen as someone who conducts herself with a level of dignity, class and grace and not in a soft way, but in a way where things can roll off me and not knock me off of the life high I have going on.”

DG: Wow that is crazy to have experienced that level of shade and hate but I guess it comes with the industry and luckily you have a positive mindset about it. So, to back the bus up, how did you get into DJ-ing?

Lola The Don: I’ve been DJ-ing off and on for 10 years. I’ve always loved music. Music is therapy for me. I actually have a very deep love for techno and house music. I have a lot of favorite techno DJs and it started there and my love for underground hip-hop like when TDE first started with Kendrick and School Boy Q. I also had love for Indie Rock and that’s what made me want to be a DJ. There’s a feeling that I get when I hear music being mashed together. There’s this euphoria that over comes and these endorphins that are released and I want people to feel that.

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DG: Who are your favorite female DJs and your overall DJs, men included, overall?

Lola The Don: My favorite female DJs right now is Shale, she does a lot of live mixes and mashups; Dj Millie, I love her look and how she brands herself. Also, Vashtie, she’s the Dondada because she DJs, she’s a video director [she directed one of Kendrick Lamar’s first videos], she’s a fashion designer, designing a brand of Jordans for women.

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As far as my overall DJs, I love DJ Diplo. He has a group that he branched off and created and it’s called Major Lazer. They are a mashup of techno, house music, reggae and hip-hop. I used to love Deadmau5  and his production; he does a lot of techno and house-inspired music. Those two are my favorite guy DJs.

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DG: How far do you want your DJ-ing to go?

Lola The Don: The lane I’m really interested in tapping into is the vixen, sexy DJ lane. I really don’t have the desire to DJ in the clubs, that’s not my focal point. The radio is not a goal of mine, but I wouldn’t mind being featured on there. I actually would like to be a traveling DJ. I just came back from an out of town gig in Chicago. I also would love to be someone’s tour DJ. I’ve DJed behind my ex, who is also a musician. We actually did SXSW a few years ago. I’ve done a lot of underground showcases here too.

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DG: What makes your DJ-ing style different?

Lola The Don: I would say the biggest thing that I’m coming out with is the energy that I’m trying to give off through my productions and mixes. Sou-lection is the vibe that I’m trying to gravitate towards. I want my sounds and mixes to be very fluid, flowy, and healing, but also something that you can dance and vibe to. The plan is to start dropping live videos of me mixing. I’m in the process of developing group of ladies called The Misses and every time I drop a live mix; I’ll have two of my misses behind me dancing to my music. We’re going to put on a show and that’s the different thing im bringing to the table; it’s not going to be just what you hear but there’s a visual aspect to it as well.

Look out for Lola, whether she’s DJ-ing or hosting your events or out with her co-founders promoting their business Socialogy Care Company or even at your local hospitals because she’ll be a nurse soon!! She’s a go-getter and wants to see everyone win. Follow her on Instagram @LolaDaDon

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Ashlee Akins Uses Her Platform To Create Her Own Company, AA Dimensions

Ashlee Atkins is more than just a face on the OWN network. She’s an educated, entrepreneur making her way while using her platform. After being on Will Packer’s Ready To Love, she decided to take advantage of her loyal fan base she had on the show and create a brand bigger than herself, empowering women, managing artists and plenty. Check out her interview below:

 

Danii Gold: What made you want to open your company, AA Dimensions?

Ashlee Akins: After being on Ready To Love, I sat down with my mother and told her I wanted a company that exemplified women’s empowerment arts and entertainment, fashion, health and wellness and here we are. My mother has always been my biggest supporter and cheerleader, and we have always made a great team in business as well. This journey is one that I can freely give my all to, simply because there’s nothing like having a team you can trust.

Danii Gold: What was the inspiration behind opening the company?

Ashlee Akins: The inspiration behind my company is simply myself and my mother. I wanted a brand that represents and showcases real individuals, real leaders, real women and men, striving to make a difference in this world and helping each of us gain success across the board. I wanted to create a platform that encompassed each of my passions, with a foundation in one mission; to empower people of color to grow and work in their highest potential.

Danii Gold: What services does AA Dimensions provide?

Ashlee Akins: We provide inspiration for the arts as well as artist management, women’s personal and business empowerment, including different panels, forums and conferences. I have just released a book that is a self-help interactive journal to teach individuals the formula to life and to become the author of their own story. We believe in full-circle support, therefore we also serve in areas of mental and physical health and wellness.

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Danii Gold: With you being experienced within the entertainment world, positively, does that help you reach a wider variety of clients or even sponsors for the company?

Ashlee Akins: It definitely does help our networking community but we are always welcoming new sponsors and new partnerships. Due to my participation in OWN Tv’s Ready to Love, I have gained a large and loyal fan base, which I cherish dearly and am constantly motivated by to push harder and go the extra mile. One thing you should know is that fame doesn’t make you successful. Hard work and dedication does.

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Danii Gold: With you having experience with reality TV, sports, recently music; new single titled “Walk Light” AND you’re even educated; what’s next for you? Acting perhaps? 

Ashlee Akins: I am definitely a Jane of all trades. I am going to continue to pursue acting. I recently worked on a TV series on Starz and I’m just going to keep trying and reaching and exceeding all of my goals. I love life and everything it has to offer so I want to do a little bit of everything. Essentially, this is why my company includes and showcases so much. I don’t really believe in limits when it comes to self-progression.

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Danii Gold: What tools and encouragement do you use to empower consumers or people who work within the company?

Ashlee Akins: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work. We are loyal and dedicated to one another and we strive to make sure each individual reaches their highest potential. We surely live lit or die boring, but we keep it cute and professional along the way. Overall we want each person to reach unbelievable destinations.

Danii Gold: What message do you like to send with your company?

Ashlee Akins: When beginning a task never give up too fast be your labor great or small do it well or not at all‼️ 

Follow her pages on Instagram @AADimenions and @_IAmAshlee007

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[DELUX] Exclusive Interview with Tami Roman; Comedy & Clothing Deal and Recurring Roles

I was blessed with the opportunity to interview actress, producer & creator of Bonnet Chronicles Tami Roman. I interviewed her with DELUX Magazines and talked about her new business endeavors. Check out the interview HERE and a snippet of it below.

Most people may know Tami Roman from reality TV but she’s more than that! She’s a mother, producer, credible actress, and importantly a mother. Nowadays she is booked and busy with shoes deals, TV roles, executive producing her own mini series Bonnet Chronicles and recently she’s inked a comedy deal to take the comedy series on tour.

DELUX was granted the opportunity to interview her on her new business endeavors, one including a clothing deal that’s launching next year.

DELUX: Congratulations on  partnering win Jessica Rich on your own shoe collection. I know the collection dropped in March. What was the process like for you designing the shoe?

Tami Roman: Doing my shoe line with Jessica Rich was an amazing opportunity. She actually approached me at one of her shoe launch events and asked if I wanted to collab on something and I felt it was sent from the heavens above because I’ve always wanted to be in the shoe industry. It’s not an easy industry to penetrate, so for the past six years, I had been trying to figure out a way to infiltrate. When Jessica came up to me that night, I said absolutely! The process was really not as difficult as I thought it’ll be because I already had designs in my head and what I wanted to do and how I wanted to focus on a female driven line that showcased and highlighted certain aspects of the female body; and for me, that was accentuating the ankle. I love shoes that highlight a woman’s ankle, I feel like that is one of our sexiest parts of our body. So, I already had the designs and I sent my ideas, thoughts, and sketches over to her and we talked about materials, and what color palette I wanted to use. So it was relatively easy in that way and Jessica already has manufacturers on her alliance list; once we sent things overs, samples were made and the shoe was launched. The rest is history as they say. We did launch the icon boot and then I have another design coming out with her within the next month then my final design will come after that. I’m very excited about the market place to see what I have to offer and they’ve been very receptive so far.

“The opportunities are endless for Bonnet Chronicles.”

DELUX: It’s been about three years since you started the bonnet chronicles. Did you expect it to become as popular as it is now today especially being on Tidal, or did you have no idea it would have such a large reach when you first started it?

Check out her response and the rest of the interview HERE on DELUX

PrettyNPaint Owner Speaks on Changing a Male Dominated Industry

You know that saying “Anything you can, I can do better”? It applies to the many jobs that men do but women can do as well. I was able to interview a woman who owns a paint business on DELUX. Check out the story HERE and below.

There are MANY jobs that women can do just as good as men. From being a firefighter, lawyer, mechanic, and even construction site worker. PrettyNPaint, owned by Aaliyah Sahar talks with us about not limiting ourselves to just a certain category of jobs and how she got her start in the industry.

DELUX: What made you want to start a business in a predominantly male industry?

PnP: Initially due to the fact that I wanted to spend more time with my father, I came up with the idea of learning how to tape which is also my father’s business. I figured maybe we could spend more time that way in him teaching me the taping trade. He told me “but you’re a girl.” I didn’t agree with his thoughts and still pushed him to teach me anyway. I’m the type of person when challenged, I personally make it to my business to overcome it. So he finally decided to give me a shot and in the mist of me working and becoming good at it, I also had a mentor that took the time to teach me a wall painting as well. I was learning simultaneously how to tape and paint at the same time. As a journey woman, I decided to make this my business noticing that I was the only female around, especially as a ”minority. I started out at $10/hour and after becoming a journey woman, I made $30/hour at 20 years old. After mastering my craft, it became my livelihood. After working some years in the union, I felt stagnant. Yes there were opportunities where I could’ve became a foreman on someone’s job but I didn’t think that was enough for me. The challenge was dying, saying to myself “what would be my next step?” In my younger days, I had a rebellious spirit who didn’t like conforming to working for others. This frame of mind forced me into entrepreneurship. Lastly, I wanted to get more women into this field. I’m not discriminating,but I diligently all the time encourage women to get into construction. I’m currently hiring more people. I’ve started an apprenticeship program bringing awareness to this trade, in hope that women feel that they have more options instead of working at a McDonald’s or something typical and average. That’s how I got started and I’ve been moving up every sense.

DELUX: How long have you owned your own business?

Check out her response here on DELUX

Keisha Mabry Sells out Her First Conference

I went to the mastHER class conference, hosted by the sweet, talented, successful Keisha Mabry. I was able to talk to her about the event and how it came about. Check out the write up below from DELUX Mag!

 

Some people need guidance in life when it comes to creating a brand, finding their voice, networking and other things. Not only is Keisha Mabry the go-to “gal” for all those things but she created an event to help other women fill in their gaps of needs; she called it “mastHER Class.”

She grabs your attention with her quirky high-pitch voice saying “hey FRIEND” and with that signature saying, she used it to network, be memorable and create a conference in a short span. Keisha’s conference SOLD OUT with 250 attendees, on International Women’s Day. She purposely made the event for that Friday March 8. To get more in depth, the mastHERclass is a day-long event of 75-minute masterclasses taught by 12 women in 8 hours in 1 day. Topics are curated, cultivated and catered to the female content creator, entrepreneur and social media influencer. The 2019 topics included getting into speaking, event planning, the business of travel, media production, finding your brand voice, growing an online community, starting an e-commerce business and a few things in between.

Keisha was motivated to create the mastHERclass when she applied to speak at a branding conference for black and brown creatives and was rejected. She says the rejection bothered her because “I had attended the conference the year before and I knew how I could add value.” That rejection inspired to do her own thing instead of “investing in other people’s things and communities without investing in my own,” as she says; she created mastHERclass!

Of course she faced adversity while planning the event; which is expected when you have 8 weeks to pull this off with a head count of 250 women, with a $25k-$30k budget, But after crying, praying and even snacking, she was revived and made it happen! Her advice for facing adversity while planning an event is:

“Expect ish to happen. Expect a sponsor to say yes then say no. Expect the event space to not have everything in place. Expect technology to have a glitch and expect a volunteer or vendor to be dismissed. Things do not go off without a hitch so expect it, plan for it and have a team so you are not trying to handle everything.”

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When it came to selecting the speakers for the mastHERclass, Keisha picked them based on the problems she wanted to solve as an entrepreneur and how she wanted to move her business from the idea phase to the MVP phase to the sustainability and growth phase. She already had a network full of amazing women but she also wanted to seek out more women and as she says “the rest is herstory.” She met… click HERE to read the full story.

http://deluxmag.com/keisha-mabry-from-heyfriend-to-a-sell-out-conference-mastherclass/

If you haven’t heard about Keisha Mabry then you need to get to know her!!

 

Danii Gold out! ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾

Women’s Month: Supa Cent Makes Another Milli in Less Than An Hour

Here’s some woman appreciation:

CONGRATULATIONS to New Orleans native, business woman and Insta-famous Star Supa Cent, whose real name is Raynell Stewart, for making $1.36 million in less an hour!! Yes, an hour! BUT this isn’t her first time making a milli in a day.

If you aren’t familiar with her business, she owns a cosmetic line and her Crayon Case is a hot commodity andddd it is cute! She got her fame for making funny Instagram stories and having a huge following, especially from her hometown New Orleans.

Back in November, On Cyber Monday, Supa generated $1 million in 90 minutes!! Just last week, Supa held a “Taxmas” sale for her online website and made everything 40% off and that’s how she made $1.36 million in under 60 minutes.

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Supa is killing the Black Entrepreneur game, not to mention she is 9 months pregnant and is bound to drop that baby any day now. She was running a business while pregnant, now THAT’S Black Girl Magic.

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Comment your thoughts on Ms. Supa below!!

Danii Gold out!! ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾

Featured image : @Supa_Cent Instagram

[DELUX Mag] Tashara Earl and David Morgan brings Battle of the Sexes to STL

Check out the my story below on an event I attended called Battle of the Sexes. It’s a game show that originated in Atlanta by David Morgan and Tashara Earl and they decided to bring the show here. Check out the story below:

Friday night, the game show—Battle of the Sexes made its way to Lowe’s Café to give St. Louis a live preview of the show that originated in Atlanta.  The show was created by Tashara Earl of Fusion Entertainment Management (FEM), along with Chemistry 360.

Originally from St. Louis, Earl decided to bring the show to St. Louis after she received a huge amount of engagement from her social media followers. Along with Earl, host David Morgan of Luhv2Live also appeared to ensure fans would get a true taste of the show.

The concept of the game is to go head to head with the opposite sex on a controversial relationship topics and issues. Since everyone loves a good card game and turn up, before the actual game show started, guests played some Uno, Taboo, and other games, before continuing the night with drinks and a little misbehaving.

Once the show began, it was broken down into rounds. The first round was an agree or disagree game that spark real life questions and scenarios. Various scenarios surrounding marriage, child support and rearing, along with many other relationship topics captivated the audience as excitement and competitiveness filled the room.

It was nice hearing each sides point of view. In some of those questions, each sex agreed or disagree on the same question but ever had their different reason.

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Another game that was placed was called “Bullshit or Believable.” The purpose of this games was for game contestants to shout out a statement—that would either be believable or not. For instance, “Black women who are in a relationship with a white man are less likely to get cheated on.”

Click HERE to see the rest of the story

http://deluxmag.com/tashara-earl-and-david-morgan-brings-battle-of-the-sexes-to-stl/

Tell me your thought on the game and the concept. Would you come to the next Battle of the Sexes event?

Comment below and let me know.