Let’s Talk About Summer Walker’s New Album “Over It”

If you’ve been living under a rock, Summer Walker released her first album Over It on October 4 and it’s gained a lot of attention and even charted. The album is the “biggest debut album from a female R&B artist in over 10 years.” That’s big! Not sure what the exact numbers are but from the looks of it, it seemed highly anticipated from its recognition. 

Side bar: Summer KILLED her feature on Rick Ross album Port of Miami in the the song “Summer Reign.”

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As of today, her album is #2 on the RnB and Hiphop charts. Majority of her songs have charted as well.

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Speaking of which, let’s talk about her songs and features. She opens up the album with the self-titled album name “Over It” and in the song she says she needs a guy who can handle her. Men often say that women are out of control and she’s over the fact that women have to be tamed. She wants a guy who can handle her, flaws and all.

Summer gets Bryson Tiller on her “Playing Games” extended version. The song is self-explanatory, dudes be playing games and Summer speaks on how us women just want them to pick up the phone for us, quit stunting on us and even show us off. She also was a regular version without Bryson but the extended version is better.

In the song “Come Thru” she sampled Usher “You Make Me Wanna” and even gets him featured on the song. Summer wants her boo thang to come thru so she can put it on him. They killed this song!! Hopefully she’ll drop it as a single, even though it’s already charted.

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“Fun Girl” is one honest ass song. She talks about how this guy looks at her as just a friend and even told her that she wasn’t built right. In so many words, he told her she didn’t have a body and he thought she was onlygood for just her body, being a “fun girl”, a fuck buddy. It’s sad when you hear things like that and imagine Summer channeling that hurt into a song. I’m sure dude is probably slapping himself right now lol.

“Tonight” is probably one of the sexiest songs on the album. She talks about being busy and how she can’t wait to get back home to bae and have some “quality time” with him. Speaking of that quality time, Summer got 6lack on her song “Like That” as they talk to their partners about what they like in the bedroom; another great feature.

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“Just Might Be” featuring PARTYNEXTDOOR has got to be one the funniest/realistic songs on her album as she talks about how it’s hard for her to find love and she questions if she may be a hoe. EVERY woman has thought there was something wrong with them because they couldn’t find love. When you finally find love, you deal with a guy who wants so much out of you  and you deliver, but he doesn’t hold up his end. Summer talks about that in “Stretch You Out” featuring A Boogie With The Hoodie. She said she’s not going to stress you out but instead, see what she can get from you, “stretch you out.” Once fed up, Summer realizes that she doesn’t have the patience or tears to deal with a guy’s nonsense anymore. She realizes that she’s over the dude in “Off Of You.”

One of my favorite songs on the album is “I’ll Kill You” featuring Jhene Aiko. Both ladies talk about how they’ve found love and how they’ve waited so long for it and they will kill any woman who tries to interfere with that relationship.

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It’s safe to say that Summer killed her debut album. Her new boyfriend London On Da Track produced majority of the album and I’m not complaining! This album was made out of love or lust and I’m for it.

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Lola The Don Talks Being a Female DJ, Her Self-Love Journey and Socialogy Care Company

The “Don” is defined as someone who is respected by many people, a leader, a king, or in this sense a Queen. Lola The Don is respected by many and says she’s never walked into a room that she didn’t deserve to be in.  Lola is DJ in a male dominated industry, a nursing student, and importantly a self-care advocate. She talks about her highs, lows and everything in between that it took for her to get to her happy place that she’s in now. Check out her interview below.

DG: You’re an entrepreneur, what all businesses do you have under your belt?

Lola The Don: The most prominent is Socialogy Care Company, that’s the most visible right now.

DG: With Socialogy Care Company, there are 3 other co-creators. What all services do you all provide?

Lola The Don: We are a health and wellness care company. We get asked a lot if we are health gurus and people would come to us for health-related advice, and I would tell them that is not at all what we are. We are not the point of contact for health-related advice, but what we are is the point of contact for directing you to those people who can give you the correct health advice. We’re the liaison, the middleman, between the community and health & wellness service providers. Those providers, for us, are anyone that offer some sort of services tailored to health & wellness; that could be a personal trainer, a fitness instructor, a gym, a healthy eatery, a person who makes body butter, a person who makes hair care products, even a financial specialist because good credit and finances is a part of health & wellness. Anything you can think of that is health & wellness related, we try to help the community find their services.

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DG: What was your reasoning for wanting to start/become a co-creator of Socialogy Care Company?

Lola The Don: I was looking for health and wellness resources and did not know where to start. So, I wanted to help others who were having this same issue. So I decided to create something that would be a hub for people to be able to come and search for these health and wellness related resources.” So, we, the creators of Socialogy Care Company, take the task of you having to use Google and provide you with the information on our website and look into our database to find the resources you need.

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DG: Do you have a background in health & wellness?

Lola The Don: Yes, I got my bachelor’s in Socialogy, then I went into the healthcare field as a case manager, which is like a baby social worker. I sat on the clinical team at a substance abuse treatment center for adolescent boys. It was heavy work and my first introduction to healthcare as a whole. I did that under two years and loved the experience and the children I worked it; they still reach out to me, to this day. That was the biggest take away from that job. Unfortunately, there was not a lot of pay in the field as a case manager, so I went back to school after doing some praying, soul searching, meditating and consulting with my higher powerful (shoutout to GOD), and I went back to school for nursing. I’ve always known that health & wellness was somehow my calling. So I started nursing school, then “Life started lifing” so I tabled it for a second and now I’m back in nursing school.

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DG: I’ve seen on your social media that you decided to give up alcohol and dating for a year. What prompted you to do that?

Lola The Don: I experienced a breakup a year ago. During that hard breakup, my mental health plummeted, and I fell into a state of depression. Prior to the relationship with him, I never really had anxiety but it started to develop within that relationship and it was really exasperating. That is something I look back on and it reinforces me stay on top of my mental health. After a couple weeks of having a pity party, I started taking the necessary steps for me to feel whole again; one of those things was letting go of drinking. When I would go through hard things, I would resort to drinking instead of letting myself feel feelings and healthily dealing with them. The second thing I gave up was dating and became celibate. I never sat with myself for an extended period of time as an adult. I was either in a relationship or always dating and that’s a form of running away from yourself, in my opinion.  I realized that when you get with someone, you sometimes unconsciously lose  yourself within that person and when/if that person leaves, they will take a piece of you with them and you have nothing. So, I made a vow to myself that I will never let that happen to me again. It was equally the most grueling time in my life as it was the most rewarding. I stayed on path and at the end of it, I truly believe that certain blessings started to flow in and the biggest blessing was finally looking in the mirror and saying “I know you, I fuck with you” and no one can touch that. After this one-year cleanse, I met a guy and he’s very nice, it’s refreshing, and I am able to be in that space and pour into that but still have my boundaries and know who I am.

I can not have this business and not walk the walk and talk the talk.”

DG: What other practices do you do for your own personal health and wellness besides not drinking, in a sense of self-care? How are you practicing what you preach in Socialogy Care Co.?

Lola The Don: I can not have this business and not walk the walk and talk the talk. Firstly, I feel that what I put in my body physically (eat and drink) and spiritually (what I read, watch and listen to) matters. No, I’m not a saint eating the right things and listening to the purest things, but I do try to incorporate those things into my lifestyle regularly. I’m a big water drinker, I rarely drink anything besides that. Also, I pour positives things in my life like positive podcasts or YouTube videos. If I’m not listening to something self-care related, I’m listening to something business related. One of my favorite podcasts, The Wall Street Journal Secret to Wealthy Women and they talk about how they acquired their wealth and success. I love to journal, even though sometimes I find myself doing it on my phone instead of actually writing it. Two of the biggest things for me, self-care related, is practicing mindfulness; when I wake up in the morning, the first 30 minutes are important, so I don’t check my phone and I talk to God. The other is practicing positive self-talk. I don’t talk down on myself.

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DG: With you going to nursing school, how are you going to implement your studies the Socialogy Care Company?

Lola The Don: Right now, I don’t have the credentials behind my name, yet, but what I do have is my research and my personal experiences. Once I get my credentials, that’ll make me much more credible to my subscribers.

DG: What events does Socialogy Care Company have coming up?

Lola The Don: Last year, our was goal was to produce an event every month and we were able to do that, whether it be one that we put on ourselves or one that we partnered with a health care professional or orchestrated a volunteer session. This year our goal has been to mainly show up at other people’s events and support them.

We are in the process of working on our first annual citywide wellness retreat. It’ll be a weekend getaway with everybody without breakout topics about financial, mental health, prayer circles, and just networking overall. We want to be able to produce this event every year.

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“I’m coming back to buy the building of all those doors that were once closed on me.” 

DG: Switching the focus to your DJ career. Is it intimidating being in a predominantly male industry?

Lola The Don: On the surface, generally speaking, sure, it could be intimidating for people. On a personal level, no. I actually embrace it and welcome it. I had a recent encounter not to long ago. I was booked to host an event by a good friend of mine, and I’ve hosted many events for him in the past before. Once I got to the venue, I went to the DJ booth and asked where the mic was because I was the host for the evening. The guy told me I wasn’t getting the mic and I was confused of course but I didn’t really trip off it too hard. I did reiterate that I was booked to host. He eventually hands me the mic and I was on it for a while, but he ended up requesting it back so I figured that we would go back and forth on the mic which is fine. I step away for a minute and come back to another guy being on the mic who is respected around and known for hosting. I respect that and his craft. So, I asked him was he hosting with me and he said no, he was only going to be on the mic and I told him, like I told the previous guy, that I was booked to be on the mic as well. He told me he was getting paid to host too. I’m mature enough to let it go, I got paid already so I decided to kick it with my friends. But during the times I did have the mic and was hosting, I noticed they kept turning my mic down. It was crazy and I thought “What is happening?” and “where is this energy coming from?” I think it is wack when a guy hates on a girl, we are in two totally different lanes. This is definitely a male dominant industry and I don’t think it is a career for the faint heart, If you are a woman. We as women are required to show up 10 times more prepared so we can rightfully demand the respect that we are owed. There are times when I get doubt or side-eyed from people who may have concerns of why I get/got booked for things. I’m sure there are people think I got booked for a gig because I am a woman or for my looks. It goes back to me knowing what I’m capable of and qualified for. I don’t get discouraged or deterred from situations like that. My mindset is “I’m coming back to buy the building of all those doors that were once closed on me.” 

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“ As a woman, I always want to be seen as someone who conducts herself with a level of dignity, class and grace and not in a soft way, but in a way where things can roll off me and not knock me off of the life high I have going on.”

DG: Wow that is crazy to have experienced that level of shade and hate but I guess it comes with the industry and luckily you have a positive mindset about it. So, to back the bus up, how did you get into DJ-ing?

Lola The Don: I’ve been DJ-ing off and on for 10 years. I’ve always loved music. Music is therapy for me. I actually have a very deep love for techno and house music. I have a lot of favorite techno DJs and it started there and my love for underground hip-hop like when TDE first started with Kendrick and School Boy Q. I also had love for Indie Rock and that’s what made me want to be a DJ. There’s a feeling that I get when I hear music being mashed together. There’s this euphoria that over comes and these endorphins that are released and I want people to feel that.

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DG: Who are your favorite female DJs and your overall DJs, men included, overall?

Lola The Don: My favorite female DJs right now is Shale, she does a lot of live mixes and mashups; Dj Millie, I love her look and how she brands herself. Also, Vashtie, she’s the Dondada because she DJs, she’s a video director [she directed one of Kendrick Lamar’s first videos], she’s a fashion designer, designing a brand of Jordans for women.

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As far as my overall DJs, I love DJ Diplo. He has a group that he branched off and created and it’s called Major Lazer. They are a mashup of techno, house music, reggae and hip-hop. I used to love Deadmau5  and his production; he does a lot of techno and house-inspired music. Those two are my favorite guy DJs.

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DG: How far do you want your DJ-ing to go?

Lola The Don: The lane I’m really interested in tapping into is the vixen, sexy DJ lane. I really don’t have the desire to DJ in the clubs, that’s not my focal point. The radio is not a goal of mine, but I wouldn’t mind being featured on there. I actually would like to be a traveling DJ. I just came back from an out of town gig in Chicago. I also would love to be someone’s tour DJ. I’ve DJed behind my ex, who is also a musician. We actually did SXSW a few years ago. I’ve done a lot of underground showcases here too.

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DG: What makes your DJ-ing style different?

Lola The Don: I would say the biggest thing that I’m coming out with is the energy that I’m trying to give off through my productions and mixes. Sou-lection is the vibe that I’m trying to gravitate towards. I want my sounds and mixes to be very fluid, flowy, and healing, but also something that you can dance and vibe to. The plan is to start dropping live videos of me mixing. I’m in the process of developing group of ladies called The Misses and every time I drop a live mix; I’ll have two of my misses behind me dancing to my music. We’re going to put on a show and that’s the different thing im bringing to the table; it’s not going to be just what you hear but there’s a visual aspect to it as well.

Look out for Lola, whether she’s DJ-ing or hosting your events or out with her co-founders promoting their business Socialogy Care Company or even at your local hospitals because she’ll be a nurse soon!! She’s a go-getter and wants to see everyone win. Follow her on Instagram @LolaDaDon

[Exclusive Interview] Miami Artist Teenear Opens Up About Her Fame, Influences, Collaborations & More

Miami native Teenear has groomed herself for the moments she’s living in right now. She’s been singing since she was a toddler, singing covers on YouTube since she was 15, and she is signed to Slip N Slide Records. Teenear has a single with Sage The Gemini, which went global, gracing the presence of Japanese dancer Kahonna. She’s living in her moment and making Miami proud. Check her interview below as she talks about her influences, experiences and much more.

Danii Gold: Being from a musically inclined city such as Miami, what influence did you have growing up?

Teenear: Miami is such a melting pot of genres and sounds. There’s the Miami Sound Machine, disco, R&B and hip-hop in our music history. That inspired me to want to break barriers with my music. Betty Wright was one of my early vocal coaches and is a hometown legend who I can still reach out to at any time.

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Danii Gold: Back in 2015 you had a single with Sage the Gemini titled “Friday Night”, and it went global after a well-known Japanese dancer, Kahonna used it in a dance video. What was it like getting such exposure, especially with “Friday night” being your first single?

Teenear To be honest, at that moment it was 100% surreal because I had just started and for somebody, all the way from Japan to recognize a song and do so much with it for me was appreciated to the fullest. 

Danii Gold: What was it like to collaborate with Lil Baby on your latest single “I Like It”? And having your video play on BET Jams? Congratulations on that. How are you feeling?

Teenear: Thank you so much! Collaborating with Lil Baby was amazing! I’m genuinely so grateful that I was able to get him on “I Like It”. He did an amazing job on his verse and I am really appreciative of BET; they’re always super supportive towards me and my team!

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Danii Gold: What was the process like, when you signed with Slip N Slide Records?  

Teenear:  I had a conversation about if being an artist is something that I really wanted to do. From there, I started putting myself out there doing  a lot of covers, and during that time I was doing a lot of recording to a lot of records that people sent in. It wasn’t until I met with a producer from Atlanta named Anthony, and he played me a beat he had and that’s when we created “Friday Night” ft Sage the Gemini and from there I just kept growing with Slip N Slide.

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Danii Gold: Do you have any plans on collaborating with any of your label mates such as Trina, Plies, Trick Daddy, Sebastian Mikael, etc.?

Teenear: I’ve already collaborated with Trina on one of my earlier records named “Streetlights”. In the future, I definitely see myself collaborating with my newer label mates F$O Dinero, Mike Smiff and Sebastian.

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Danii Gold: What other artists would you like to work with now or in the future?

Teenear: I am a big fan of so many artists right now but at this moment I would love to be able to collaborate with H.E.R, Ella Mai, Megan Thee Stallion, Saweetie, Bruno Mars and honestly, the list can just continue. There are so many talented artists out right now that I can’t wait to be able to work with! 

Danii Gold: If you weren’t doing music, what would you be doing?

Teenear: Growing up I’ve always been a big fan of not only music but also acting and I have a really big passion for musical theater exclamation! So if I wasn’t doing what I’m doing now I most likely would be pursuing a career in musical theater.

Danii Gold: Any upcoming projects in the works?

Teenear: I definitely have quite a few projects coming out really soon that I’m really excited about! I’ve been working with a lot a new and extremely talented people that have been helping me create some amazing records so make sure you’re following me on my socials so you can stay updated on when I’m dropping them!

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Danii Gold: Of course! What message do you want to send in your music?

Teenear: To be honest I just want my music to be able to reflect me as much as possible. A young girl growing up, finding herself and just having fun in every moment that life is giving her.

Make sure y’all check out her new single “I Like It” featuring Lil Baby along with multiple videos she has for the song.

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Check out her website: https://teenear.com
Instagram: @TeenearR

Ashlee Akins Uses Her Platform To Create Her Own Company, AA Dimensions

Ashlee Atkins is more than just a face on the OWN network. She’s an educated, entrepreneur making her way while using her platform. After being on Will Packer’s Ready To Love, she decided to take advantage of her loyal fan base she had on the show and create a brand bigger than herself, empowering women, managing artists and plenty. Check out her interview below:

 

Danii Gold: What made you want to open your company, AA Dimensions?

Ashlee Akins: After being on Ready To Love, I sat down with my mother and told her I wanted a company that exemplified women’s empowerment arts and entertainment, fashion, health and wellness and here we are. My mother has always been my biggest supporter and cheerleader, and we have always made a great team in business as well. This journey is one that I can freely give my all to, simply because there’s nothing like having a team you can trust.

Danii Gold: What was the inspiration behind opening the company?

Ashlee Akins: The inspiration behind my company is simply myself and my mother. I wanted a brand that represents and showcases real individuals, real leaders, real women and men, striving to make a difference in this world and helping each of us gain success across the board. I wanted to create a platform that encompassed each of my passions, with a foundation in one mission; to empower people of color to grow and work in their highest potential.

Danii Gold: What services does AA Dimensions provide?

Ashlee Akins: We provide inspiration for the arts as well as artist management, women’s personal and business empowerment, including different panels, forums and conferences. I have just released a book that is a self-help interactive journal to teach individuals the formula to life and to become the author of their own story. We believe in full-circle support, therefore we also serve in areas of mental and physical health and wellness.

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Danii Gold: With you being experienced within the entertainment world, positively, does that help you reach a wider variety of clients or even sponsors for the company?

Ashlee Akins: It definitely does help our networking community but we are always welcoming new sponsors and new partnerships. Due to my participation in OWN Tv’s Ready to Love, I have gained a large and loyal fan base, which I cherish dearly and am constantly motivated by to push harder and go the extra mile. One thing you should know is that fame doesn’t make you successful. Hard work and dedication does.

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Danii Gold: With you having experience with reality TV, sports, recently music; new single titled “Walk Light” AND you’re even educated; what’s next for you? Acting perhaps? 

Ashlee Akins: I am definitely a Jane of all trades. I am going to continue to pursue acting. I recently worked on a TV series on Starz and I’m just going to keep trying and reaching and exceeding all of my goals. I love life and everything it has to offer so I want to do a little bit of everything. Essentially, this is why my company includes and showcases so much. I don’t really believe in limits when it comes to self-progression.

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Danii Gold: What tools and encouragement do you use to empower consumers or people who work within the company?

Ashlee Akins: Teamwork Makes the Dream Work. We are loyal and dedicated to one another and we strive to make sure each individual reaches their highest potential. We surely live lit or die boring, but we keep it cute and professional along the way. Overall we want each person to reach unbelievable destinations.

Danii Gold: What message do you like to send with your company?

Ashlee Akins: When beginning a task never give up too fast be your labor great or small do it well or not at all‼️ 

Follow her pages on Instagram @AADimenions and @_IAmAshlee007

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Have You Seen Beyonce’s “Spirit” Video??

Okay look…I’m not part of the Beehive and I’m not a big Beyonce fan. I love her music and I’m a supporter but this “Spirit” video for The Lion King movie tho… whew chile!! It’s an uplifting, inspirational song that she sings her heart out on. It’s in reference to Simba becoming King. Lyrics such as “watch the heavens open” is a referencing to when Simba was born and Mufasa was lifting him up in the sky and the light came shining down on him.

The African rooted choreography and even the clothing in the video was beautiful. The song was played at the best time of the movie, when Simba was heading back to Pride Rock to take his place as king. Check out my Lion King Review <—- here.

I love how Beyonce goes back to her roots, OUR ROOTS,  when she is involved in a project, such as her Homecoming documentary on Netflix. She involved the HBCU culture into her Coachella performance, which is black AF! Even though she never got the chance to attend a HBCU due to her career, she made sure to recognize it. With The Lion King, even though it’s animated, it takes place in Africa and Beyonce showcases the dances and somewhat the attire. Leave it up to Beyonce to “woo” us.

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St. Louis Artist Valencia Talks Upbringing, Lyrics and New Single Dropping 8/2

Valencia Valencia Valencia!! That’s a name you don’t want to forget. She’s a St. Louis based artist doing the thang and making a name for herself. She working hard these days; she dropped her EP F**k Girl earlier this year. Valencia released a single titled “Another Round” just a month ago and now she’s working on the release of her new song “Vibe” that is dropping on Friday August 2. She’s opened for nation wide artists and even has the same vocal coach as Grammy nominated artists. Check out her interview below!

Danii Gold: How did you get your start in music? Do you come from a musically-inclined family?

Valencia: I got started in music at an early age. When I was very young (like 6 or so) I would sing songs involving a lot of harmony with three of my older siblings. However, I didn’t realize my love for music until I was much older. Although I took guitar lessons, dance classes, and singing lessons I didn’t grow up directly under nor with someone who had the same passion as I have now.  I have a lot of family members outside of my siblings who sing, dance, rap, produce, and more but I didn’t get this from my parents directly. 

Danii Gold: If you had to introduce yourself to a person by letting people know who you are, what would you say? For instance, finish the sentence, “I’m Valencia, a singer, …”

Valencia: It’s ya girrrrl Valencia, aka DAMN, bka, Damnn Valencia.. Okay just kidding! I’d only say that on stage. I would say I’m a singer/songwriter, performer or entertainer, and creative music video director. 

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Danii Gold: Those are some good titles. When you started writing music at age 15, what would you write about at the time?

Valencia: Back then I used to write a lot of (if not only), inspirational songs. I grew up in church so I never ventured out to write about different aspects of life until I got older and more comfortable with better expressing myself. 

Danii Gold: Being that you’ve been into music for such a long time from writing to singing it, Would you consider writing for other artists ?

Valencia: Most definitely! It’s one of my goals and actually something I’ve already started to do. 

Danii Gold: That’s what’s up! Your music and voice is dope AF. You are open with your sexuality in a classy and sensual way. Not a lot of female artists are like that, but with the few that are like that, did you have any music inspirations growing up when it came to singing about your sexuality?

Valencia: Ah, thank you so much! Growing up I was super conservative. Since I grew up in the church, my family and I were missionaries and my dad was a pastor. Now, I’m not trying to pump up the cliche that “pastors kids are the worst ones” or anything, but I do have to say I didn’t become comfortable with expressing myself or even being myself until I got older. I grew into my own person and realized that I’m a free spirit. There wasn’t anybody in particular who I got inspired by at the time, but I guess I just finally figured out what type of being I was and wanted to be. This time in my life was so liberating! 

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Danii Gold: In the past, you were blessed with the opportunity to work in vocal coach Ametria Dock who’s worked with Jidenna, Janelle Monae and even India Irie. How did you two link up?

Valencia: I went to a singers workshop in Atlanta, just to grow as a singer/musician when I learned of her. I was obsessed with India Arie growing up already so to find out her background singer, Ametria Dock was going to be there and teaching was beyond exciting. After attending the event I reached out to her about singing lessons and I was under her teaching for years after that. 

Danii Gold: That’s so cool! Did her large clientele help you connect with other artists? 

Valencia: It began to, however, I will say from when I was younger I realize now that I could have done much more to network with those she knew– you definitely live and you learn. She was willing to help me too. But thankfully I actually plan to start my lessons back up. Her talent and ability to help others grow is unmatched and I really miss learning from her. 

Danii Gold: Speaking of other artists, you opened up for Flo Rida and AJR back in 2017. How did you get that opportunity and what did you learn?

Valencia: It’s important to have genuine people and friends in your corner! My amazing friend Allen Gates invited me on stage with him for this opportunity. We always try to look out for our loved ones but man, he’s just the type of person that goes above and beyond. So major shout out to Allen “You know how G do it!” Gates! 

From that experience, I learned that this music thing is definitely for me! I learned to own the stage and every opportunity you’re given. And finally to handle it all with care, grace and humility. That same day a St. Louis, singing legend and someone who I adored personally, Rollyn ‘Klassy’ Moore passed away. I never told anyone this but hours before the performance I spent crying and mourning my friend who was always encouraging me to keep going. I had a growth spurt the day I performed this concert. I learned my strengths and my drive and reasoning for doing what I do, was way greater than I realized. 

Danii Gold: Wow, that’s a great way to look at it. So switching focuses here–you have a new single dropping on Friday August 2 at 7pm title “Vibe”. What was the story and inspiration behind it?

Valencia: Wow, “Vibe” was created on the complete random! I was bouncing ideas off my partner in music for a totally different song (shout out to 4012!) and I had already been working on building up my catalog of music when I just came up with this catchy ass hook… “it’s the summertime just vibe, vibe…” And when I say I’ve never written something in such a short amount of time that I actually LOVED– I shocked myself! I finished it in literally 30 min. Writing songs usually comes very easily and naturally to me, but this one was so special for some reason. There wasn’t any inspiration behind it per say, it just felt good and the song itself made me happy. I could only imagine and hope that it does the same for those who hear it! 

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Danii Gold: I love how you express in your music that women can do and feel the same way as men, no double standard. The term being used now is “having a hot girl summer.” Lol. What reactions have you gotten from men regarding the lyrics in your music?

Valencia: Haha! Yesss, to the “hot girl summer!” I’ve received mixed feelings from men. However, surprisingly, most of those feelings were just them appreciating the art and loving the sound! I was surprised, I can’t even lie. But with others you could definitely tell they were uncomfortable and felt some type of way about it and ended up asking for clarification for some of the lyrics and their meanings. Which, I took no offense to because that’s part of the reason why I created F*ck Girl. I wanted the conversations, I wanted to be expressive and a bit problematic, and I definitely wanted the buzz.

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Danii Gold: What is the ultimate goal you want to reach with your music?

Valencia: Whew, my ultimate goal? This is a tough one! I feel like there is no limit in this one little life that we all get to live individually. So I want my music to have endless opportunity and countless stories tied to it and survive to live through future generations (sky’s the limit right?). Music is healing, it’s freeing, it’s everywhere and nowhere. I want it to be heard around the world, and I want it to help in anyway it can. 

Danii Gold: What message do you want to send through your music?

Valencia: Be yourself, be happy, be carefree, be wild, be kind and loving, and enjoy your freaking life!

Valencia is a beautiful soul and a dope artist making her way in this music industry. Make sure you listen to her new single “Vibe” dropping on Friday August 2 at 7:01pm. If you want to keep up with her, follow her on Facebook and Instagram @DamnValencia. Her music is on all streaming sites. Also, check out her website for more information on her –> https://www.damnvalencia.com

 

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Let’s Talk ‘Games People Play’

BET has done it again. They created another hit show that actually has a purpose. I loved Boomerang and can’t wait for a new season. Being Mary Jane was the shit too when it was aired regularly and Games People Play is another relatable series.

The Characters

The show stars Lauren London, who plays Vanessa; Sarunas Jackson, who plays her husband Marcus; Jackie Long, who plays Marcus’ best friend, Kareem; Parker McKenna Posey, who plays Laila, a side chick; Karen Obliom, who plays Nia, Vanessa best friend; and the Instagram funny influencer Kendall Kyndall, who plays Nia’s friend and messy coworker. 

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Background Information

What makes the show realistic is the fact that some professional sports players cheat, specifically in the show NBA players. In the show, Marcus cheats on a Vanessa and she catches them mid-act, and puts the paws on her. The girl somehow ends up dead and the show is at the point of figuring out if Marcus or even Vanessa had something to do with her death. Marcus cheats again, this time with Laila and she subliminally posts his body parts on Instagram. Vanessa finds out and decides to get her revenge. Nia is a celebrity blogger and her job wants her to write a story about Laila even though it may jeopardize her relationship with Vanessa. Marcus’ friend Kareem used to be as good as Marcus when it came to basketball but didn’t perfect his craft long enough so he’s kind of seen as Marcus’ sidekick or even his shadow.

No Double Standard

I like how the writers make the show realistic with Vanessa cheating back on Marcus. Yes, she cheats back y’all and AS SHE SHOULD. This man publicly cheated on her and he’s in the midst of getting back in her good grace and “saying” he’s not going to cheat again. Whether Vanessa believes it or not, she got her revenge back by cheating with an old friend. There is no double standard here. Nia, her friend, did not judge her. Marcus doesn’t know…yet but I hope he finds out so she can throw it in his face.

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Career or Friendship

Choosing between work and friendship can be tough at time. Of course money pays the bills so you would want to pick your job but friends who support you, your decisions and lifestyle is something you don’t want to take for granted. Nia has to tread lightly when it comes to her career as a gossip writer and her friendship with Vanessa, who has a cheating husband and his business stays in the media.

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Living in Friend’s Shadow

We’ve all been in a position where we’ve followed instead leaded, gone with the flow, let our friend take the shine and be great. In the last episode, they gives us some history on the start of Marcus and Kareem’s friendship. They were college roommates and both on the basketball team. Kareem was starting and Marcus was going to be riding the bench. As time went on, Kareem was slacking (for bets and money reasons) and that gave Marcus the time to shine. He went pro while Kareem…didn’t. Instead Kareem became Marcus’ alibi for everything when it came to Vanessa, plus some! In the second to last episode, Kareem realized that he was living in Marcus’ shadow and didn’t want to cover for him anymore. He noticed his worth and realized that even though he didn’t go pro, he can do other things with his talents. This is a good lesson of, if you and a friend are both experts in a craft one becomes better than the other, and makes it further in life, that doesn’t mean neither of you has to live in the other’s shadow. That just means that you can fully support one another while pursuing your path in another direction.

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This show is a must-see. Not only is Lauren London in it, but Kendall Kyndall is hilarious, Karen Obliom is my fav, Sarunas is FINE and BET needs support to keep putting relevant content on their network. 

What are your thoughts on the show? Comment them below and let me know!