Acknowledge it & Apologize: How Do We Move On…or Not

One thing that grinds my gears is when people try to down play situations, especially when it’s feelings and even money involved. To me, if you’re going to bring up a situation up, state the facts and not downplay or sweep it under a rug. To me, there are some steps to go by to somewhat get closure out of those situations, if not closure then at least get your feelings off your chest

Step 1: Acknowledge it.

When your in some kind of situation, the best thing to do is acknowledge what you did wrong or have the other person acknowledge what they did wrong to you, that way everything is put on the table.

Step 2: Apologize

This is the step where you know you fucked up and you need to say that in the form of an apology. Even if you didn’t have ill intentions, still apologize for your actions and/or words and actually MEAN IT! An “I’m Sorry for…” blah blah blah

Step 3: How Can We Move On…or Not

Once the acknowledgement of wrongdoing has been stated  and the apology /apologies were said, how can you move on? Some people think, “an apology isn’t enough, that doesn’t change anything.” This is true and that’s when you can decide not to move forward with the person by simply cutting them off.  ALSO if you don’t move on from situation, still communicate with that person on how y’all relationship stands now. Either you fuck with them, even at a distance, or you don’t at all. Whether it’s speaking to them in passing or not at all but the importance of this all is COMMUNICATION. You don’t want any assumptions left wondering in your brain because as woman myself, I KNOW I can overthink situations. The best thing you can do is speak on it. Honesty is key and again COMMUNICATION!

 

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I’m Going Back to Cali!

“Visiting a difference place, even for a limited time, deeply affects yours soul and way of thinking.” –Kyra Kyles; Editor-in-Chief of Ebony Magazine

I recently read a short article in Ebony magazine about traveling as I was on a plane heading back home from Los Angeles. How ironic right. I feel like it was a sign to me, and that was KEEP TRAVELING. Everyone needs a break from the realities of home such as work, school, kids, husband, etc.

It has been my dream since I was young to travel to Los Angeles; mainly because I always liked the entertainment industry and L.A is one of the top places for it, plus fashion and of course…the beaches!

Day 1 in Cali, I did the tourist-y things, like visit the Santa Monica Pier, which was okay, but it felt great being on a beach again since the last time was my cruise.

Next day was the Grammy Museum, which was nice to see the different types of music that had won awards. Then that night we (me, my cousin, aunt and friend) went to VENICE BEACH which was crazy fun!! The sunset was AMAZING and made being on a beach is so relaxing.

 

Day 3 of Cali was visiting the museums like the Madame Tussands Wax Museum, The Hollywood Museum (no photos allowed) and Warner Brother Studio

 

Anyone who is a Pretty Little Liars fan….I was in ROSEWOOD. Talk about excited!!! I even saw Allison’s house!

 

Day 4 was Universal Studios. Majority of the rides were 3D and were based upon movies I had never seen before like: Harry Potter, The Mummy and Jurassic Park–(don’t judge me y’all lol. I don’t know why I never seen them). What I did enjoy was walking through the walking dead attraction. For me it was exciting and funny but not so much for my people that were with me.

 

 

Overall, I loved my Cali trip. I feel like I didn’t do as much because it seem like there is so much to see. On the list for my next Cali trip:

  • Clubbing
  • shopping
  • hiking
  • spotting a celebrity

 

LOL I’m out y’all. I hope you enjoy the pics!!!

And remember: TRAVEL, get outside your comfort zone!!

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*Images taken on my camera: ImagesByBri*

D.C. Missing Girls: Abuducted or Runaways? Either Way, Here Are Some Tips on Being Safe.

So there has been A LOT of buzz about the Washington D.C young girls going missing. If you’ve been out of the loop about it, here’s what’s being reported:

The Washington, D.C police have posted on their social media pages about young girls currently missing and they are coincidentally Black and Latino girls. They are saying that there was some inaccuracy in the reports that have gone viral on social media. They’re saying 14 girls did NOT go missing in a span of 24 hours and they confirmed that and what not BUT according to the Washington DC NBC news; they reported on March 25 that as of March 19, they have shared 22 missing people reports on their Twitter page. 11 of which were juveniles and since then, five of the juveniles have been found.  The concern is that they are Black and Latinos girls/women. Lawmakers of the Black Caucus say that “When children of color go missing, authorities often assume they are runaways rather than victims of abduction.”

So on that note, whether or not these young women are runaways or even being abducted, we, as women need to watch our back because they are snatching us up and possibly forcing us into human trafficking. Here are a few tips on how we can TRY to be safe out here:

  • If you are entering  your car at night or even in broad daylight, lock the doors as soon as you get in and check you back seat. It sounds creepy and even something you just seen in movies, but this shit is real. (If someone is coincidentally in your car, have a weapon in your. I have a bat that has metal on it. You can never be too safe.)
  • If you are leaving a friend’s house, via car or walking, have them watch you walk to your car or to at least to the next corner where you can’t see them.
  • If you are going somewhere and don’t want anyone to know, tell at least ONE person, your bestie, cousin, whoever you know, just in case something happens to you, they’ll know where you last told them you were going.
  • IMPORTANTLY, if you have any little sisters, cousins, play cousins, God sisters, etc. who runaway from home or who are thinking about it—talk to them about the safety risk of the situation. They could runaway from home, with the intentions of returning home and they end up getting kidnapped! If you think they are having home issue, TALK TO THEM, because someone always need someone to talk to and you could save their life.
  • If you stay in an area where you have to walk to where you are going and it’s at night or in a not so great neighborhood, you should Facetime, Skype, JusTalk, Tango, WHATEVER, someone while you are going to your destination, even talk to someone on the phone until you get to where you’re going. One thing I saw in Taken 2 is scream out the description of someone who is either kidnapping you, looking suspicious near you or say the license plate number to the person you are on the phone with. I can’t say that that is 100% effective since it was in a movie BUT it can help.
  • Keep a weapon on you; mace, pepper spray, a razor blade, pocket knife, a Taser, etc. If you know or think that you are going to be in a different environment, keep something to protect yourself on you, because you never know if you are going to be outnumbered

As a woman of the black race,  that is currently trending to be the top missing group of people, I am going to protect my self and I hope you, as women, even of different races do the same.

Here is a link of  photos provided by the D.C Metropolitan Police Department  of current individuals missing in the Washington, D.C area as of this year and there are some that have been missing from previous years. All aren’t women, some are black men as well.

Photos of Minorities currently missing in D.C area

 

featured Image: BET.com

Exclusive Mizz Mona’ Interview!

She had a dream and she went for it and made it a reality.

Mizz Mona’ is a 23-year-old radio personality, who likes interviewing everyday heroes such as business owners, artists, authors, lawyers, doctors, etc who make a difference. She is a St. Louis native who believes that her city needs a change and her goal is to make a difference as well, by supporting the city. Check out her interview below on how she did it!

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Mizz Mona’ Interview

 

Catch her every Saturday from 6p-8p on www.fergusonusahottalkradio.com
Call in at 314-388-9622
THE MONA’ SHOW!!

 

 

Credits:

Background music:

Bruno Mars–“That’s what I like” & “Versace on the floor”

Drake–Passionfruit

Featured Image taken by Me.

Why Do We Wear The African Head Wrap?

Many black women wear the head wraps that get in touch with their ancestry and African Roots. Some just wear it for the fashion and when they don’t feel like doing their hair—I’m guilty of that!!!

SO here’s some history:

  • It originated in  Sub-Saharan Africa, which is South Africa.
  • The white race imposed the wearing of wraps as a badge of enslavement during slavery.
  • The stereotype black mammy came along with the head wrap, which is a black woman who is taking care of a white family, like a servant.
  • The enslaved and their ancestors have looked at the head wrap as a helmet of courage that inspired an image of the true homeland (Africa).
  • It’s a uniform of rebellion–signifying resistance to loss of self-definition. The style in which it’s worn is a cultural marker.
  • Different cultures use head wraps, but the difference and significance is black women tie the scarf at the crown of her head, significantly portraying a crown—for Queen.
  • Here are a few ways me and my friends have worn them:
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Brea C.

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Randyy G.

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I think it’s good to know why we do certain things, why we wear certain styles & brands and where these trends originate. Sometimes, people don’t care about the history of what brand they’re wearing or how it came about.  Honestly, I don’t care either, sometimes. However, since it’s Black History Month and I wear these head wraps a lot, along with several other Black Women in this style,  I just wanted to enlighten y’all and myself on the legendary head wrap!!

Sources: ThePatriot.co.zw

Shout out to my friends for being my models!!

What 2016 has Taught Me

2016 has been up and down for me. It’s  been filled with emotions and me slowly but finding myself. As the year was reaching it’s end, nothing but good things have happened to me.

I started out 2016 in a relationship and I’m ending it single, which is fine. That was my first serious relationship and it taught me so much about myself. Even though moving in with him soooo soon wasn’t my best choice lol, I did it and I didn’t come out of the relationship pregnant (no shade), no dogs, or any other attachments. That bad decision has taught me what my limits are, what makes me click off lol, what makes me happy and sad. Overall even though it’s over, I’m glad it happened because a LOT of lessons were learned from it and there are no hard feelings on MY END. I’m not going into 2017 with any harsh feelings towards him, it is what it is.

Sometimes you have to separate yourself from things and people for blessings to come your way. In August, I took a cruise out of the country and had an AMAZING time. I experienced snorkeling (even though I can NOT swim) and i I was able to experience a different culture.

My biggest accomplishment in 2016 was purchasing my first car ON MY OWN. I’ve had 3 cars in the past and my last one, I had for six years!! I’m proud of myself for getting my credit together, getting pre-approved, and getting the car I wanted…well the second car I wanted. (I really wanted a Jeep Wrangler lol)

For the new year, I plan on traveling more, getting more invested in my career and I start school in January, seeking my Masters degree in Communication. I feel like nothing but great things will come my way this year.

 

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GO VOTE People

So clearly this year’s presidential election has raised some eyebrows. It is obvious that the main candidates (Clinton an Trump) aren’t the best options per se but that doesn’t give us a reason not to vote.

To the people, mainly MY people who are on social media saying they aren’t gonna vote, YOU CAN’T BE SERIOUS. Let’s have a little history session, shall we.

Remember learning about those times between forever ago until 1965, when African Americans didn’t have the right to vote? Granted, when blacks were suppose to have the right to vote in 1870, they had  to take literacy tests and go through other obstacles that wasn’t necessary. Remember reading and hearing about Martin Luther King Jr and many other demonstrators marching for our right to vote but they were arrested, harmed by weapons and tear gas used on them by police officers, while they peacefully protested? It would be a HARD slap in the face to our ancestors and even our living grandparents, if we didn’t exercise our right to vote. We obviously didn’t have that right to vote once before so it is very important to utilize that right.

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Photo credit: history.com

 

Now I know what you’re thinking: “Our vote doesn’t count, the electoral college has the last vote for us.” You are absolutely right. But I did find out that some states have do go by the popular vote of that specific state and some don’t. Let’s say  that the electoral college members of Missouri DOES go by the popular vote in Missouri, YOUR one vote could possibly count towards them gearing their vote to the candidate you want to win. You see people playing the lottery and the chances of winning are 1 in 13 million, yet some people still bother to play it. Just like voting, still do it! Let’s say the person who you definitely don’t want to win (TRUMP), wins and becomes president. You can’t complain about anything going wrong in the U.S because you didn’t take the time out to vote. It doesn’t cost anything to vote!

Even if you don’t want to vote for Hillary or Trump, there are three other candidates on the ballot: Gary Johnson (Libertarian), Jill Stein (Green Party), and Evan McMullin (Independent Candidate). I can’t tell you their views but I CAN tell you to PLEASE GO VOTE!

 

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Featured image photo credit: -aflcionc.org