Even though some don’t consider today a holiday, still be thankful that you have your family around and people put their best effort when cooking meals today lol.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING
Category: Lifestyle
Thanksgiving Disrespect: Black “Thursday”
So i’ve noticed for the past four plus years that these Black Friday sales have gotten out of control. Sales use to start at midnight on Friday and in recent years…they’re starting ON Thanksgiving, TF?
It’s been said that black Friday was recognized in the 1860s when Southern plantation owners could by slaves (Black people) at a discounted price. Along with that came public humiliation and even more disrespect towards black people. What is considered an “official” story/origin of black Friday is when retail owners would profit (going black) during Black Friday and holiday season but have losses ( go red) all year around.
Once upon a time ago, Black Friday sales started on thee actual Friday, but it’s crept it’s way into Thanksgiving, starting at 8 PM, to 7 PM, to 6 PM, and to 5 friggin PM! How are you suppose to enjoy your time with your family for Thanksgiving if you have to go early Christmas shopping in the middle of your Thanksgiving dinner? Now, I know all families are different but in the black community, 6 PM is when people are still eating, playing bingo, spades, left right center and whatever other games that we play for the holidays. Who wants to cut their dinner short just to go in the store with hectic crazy people to get gifts? There is this famous contraption called the Internet where you can purchase items on line versus going in the store to buy them. 😯😱 crazy right!
I, personally believe that since Thanksgiving is not a religious holiday it gets looked over. Christmas trees get brought out as soon Halloween is over 🙄 BUT people surely take advantage of being off work for Thanksgiving AND the day before AND the day after.
If people want to use Thanksgiving as a reason to have dinner with their families there’s always Sunday dinner. I feel like if you not gon celebrate or acknowledge the day, then you should take ya ass to work…if it’s open!
I’ll let y’all in on a little secret, if you shop online, you get early access to Black Friday specials on Monday, at least. I’ve been catching deals since Monday and now that it’s actual Thanksgiving, it’s the same deals. 😒
I’m just saying put some respect on the day or “holiday” and actually cherish it and be thankful for your family..hence “thanks”—giving lol. And if you really want to catch sales..just online shop, or risk your life and sanity by going into Walmart, where all the crazies go lol.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!
You Tried Me…Let That Be the Last Time
He tried you, you let him, let it be the last time.
Has he ever called you unattractive then wanted to be in your face because you look good THAT day?
Did he say he wasn’t looking for a relationship but you find out he’s in one, not even a month later?
Did he say you’re not the one for him but yet he couldn’t leave you alone?
Did he say he was only looking for a friendship but still wanted to fuck?
Did he call you a bad mother and say you don’t do anything for y’all kids…but you keep them 5 days out the week compared to his 2 measly days?
Did he call you fat in front of his friends but slide in your DMs later?
Girl…he tried you, you fell for the okey doke and shook that shit off….let that be the last time you shake it off. These men, boys, niggas, whatever you wanna call em, be trying us and we let them sometimes because we like them (at the time). Maybe we let them because we have low self-esteem and will settle for what we can, naw FUCK THAT! When you have low standards and low expectations, you get a low budget nigga. You can do better…so do better.
Let that be the last time he tries you, Queen.
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Acknowledge it & Apologize: How Do We Move On…or Not
One thing that grinds my gears is when people try to down play situations, especially when it’s feelings and even money involved. To me, if you’re going to bring up a situation up, state the facts and not downplay or sweep it under a rug. To me, there are some steps to go by to somewhat get closure out of those situations, if not closure then at least get your feelings off your chest
Step 1: Acknowledge it.
When your in some kind of situation, the best thing to do is acknowledge what you did wrong or have the other person acknowledge what they did wrong to you, that way everything is put on the table.
Step 2: Apologize
This is the step where you know you fucked up and you need to say that in the form of an apology. Even if you didn’t have ill intentions, still apologize for your actions and/or words and actually MEAN IT! An “I’m Sorry for…” blah blah blah
Step 3: How Can We Move On…or Not
Once the acknowledgement of wrongdoing has been stated and the apology /apologies were said, how can you move on? Some people think, “an apology isn’t enough, that doesn’t change anything.” This is true and that’s when you can decide not to move forward with the person by simply cutting them off. ALSO if you don’t move on from situation, still communicate with that person on how y’all relationship stands now. Either you fuck with them, even at a distance, or you don’t at all. Whether it’s speaking to them in passing or not at all but the importance of this all is COMMUNICATION. You don’t want any assumptions left wondering in your brain because as woman myself, I KNOW I can overthink situations. The best thing you can do is speak on it. Honesty is key and again COMMUNICATION!
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What 2016 has Taught Me
2016 has been up and down for me. It’s been filled with emotions and me slowly but finding myself. As the year was reaching it’s end, nothing but good things have happened to me.
I started out 2016 in a relationship and I’m ending it single, which is fine. That was my first serious relationship and it taught me so much about myself. Even though moving in with him soooo soon wasn’t my best choice lol, I did it and I didn’t come out of the relationship pregnant (no shade), no dogs, or any other attachments. That bad decision has taught me what my limits are, what makes me click off lol, what makes me happy and sad. Overall even though it’s over, I’m glad it happened because a LOT of lessons were learned from it and there are no hard feelings on MY END. I’m not going into 2017 with any harsh feelings towards him, it is what it is.
Sometimes you have to separate yourself from things and people for blessings to come your way. In August, I took a cruise out of the country and had an AMAZING time. I experienced snorkeling (even though I can NOT swim) and i I was able to experience a different culture.
My biggest accomplishment in 2016 was purchasing my first car ON MY OWN. I’ve had 3 cars in the past and my last one, I had for six years!! I’m proud of myself for getting my credit together, getting pre-approved, and getting the car I wanted…well the second car I wanted. (I really wanted a Jeep Wrangler lol)
For the new year, I plan on traveling more, getting more invested in my career and I start school in January, seeking my Masters degree in Communication. I feel like nothing but great things will come my way this year.
Do Opposites Attract?
There is a saying that goes “opposites attract” but sometimes in the long run it doesn’t always work out. If you are opposite of someone then you two have different views and that may be (but not limited too): growing up an only child versus with siblings, growing up with both parents versus a single parent and even having an active childhood versus not being active at all as a child. I’m not saying that opposites attracting won’t EVER work out. What I’m saying is, it can cause complications.
When being in a relationship, everyone wants to be loved differently. Some people may like spending time with each other as a way of showing love and that’s it; then there are some folks that like gifts and other knit knacks to show that they are being thought of in a love matter. Both of those can correlate to a person’s childhood with their parents being around or not being around. For example, someone who may have grew up with one parent may cherish spending time with someone versus buying them things all the time. On the flip side, a person who grew up with both parents may have that one parent or parents who only gave them money or bought them things and then sent them on their way–that person may like gifts much better than spending time OR that person may cherish both but of course may be better than the other.
I’ve realized that being in a relationship requires some knowledge of each other’s backgrounds and of course COMMUNICATION. Without the two, there will be BIG problems. Opposites can attract in some cases but both parties have to be willing to alter ways that are caused by their childhood.
I’m no expert, I’m jus speaking from experience.
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The Simple Things, Like School Supplies
It’s the simple things in life that make you appreciate being a kid again. From watching cartoons while eating Froot Loops cereal, to playing UNO, and even buying school supplies makes you reminisce
Yesterday, I went into Walmart to do some grocery shopping and I came across the school supply section. Now just a brief history, when I was a kid I use to LOVE school supplies, like Lisa Frank folders and notebooks, colorful pens. I even liked markers, crayons and those cute little planners. So while I’m in Walmart, looking at all the supplies, all memories started coming back to me. It made me realize that I have no reason to go school supply shopping anymore. It use to make me happy as a kid to go, something that simple. Now that I’ve graduated high school AND college, I don’t get to have that pleasure of going anymore. Maybe once I have children I’ll be able to enjoy the fun in it again, and even then my children may not find that much enjoyment in it.
The moral of my story is this; enjoy the simple things while they last, like your kid’s first words or them walking; or you not having any responsibilities; and even buying supplies that remind you of your youth and when the only thing that mattered was school and not paying bills.
Cherish the simple things.
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