March is dedicated to Women, specifically the history they’ve made. Women have came a long way from not being able to work, to having low-class jobs to being CEOs of companies. For black women, the struggle has been even more real. History is STILL being made with black women being the “first” to be in a high position of power. BUT it’s been said that Black Women are the top entrepreneurs AS WE SPEAK, and are continuing to grow!!
This month, I’ll be highlighting women who’ve made history or just women who simply need some shine.
Speaking of highlighting women, Paper Magazine released their cover for their March issue, which included Black Women in Hip Hop. It included interviews from artists such as Saweetie, Dreezy, Rico Nasty, City Girls, Yung Miami, Melii, Malibu Miitch, Bali Baby, Bri Steves, Kamaiyah, Cuban Doll and Asian Doll.
Shout out to Paper Mag for doing it for the culture. They should have had Kash Doll on the cover too. How do y’all feel about the cover? Also, who are your favorite women who’ve been doing they thang? (Besides Michelle Obama)
So, we’re five episodes in to BET’s show “Boomerang” and it’s addressed soooooo many millennial issues. If you haven’t seen the show or know what it’s about, it’s the spinoff show to the movie Boomerang, featuring Eddie Murphy, Halle Berry, Robin Givens, Martin Lawrence, David Alan Grier and other famous faces.
The movie is about Marcus Graham, played be Eddie Murphy, who’s a lady man and he runs game on them in order to have sex with them. (Typically guy shit). He gets a taste of his own medicine when a woman by the name of Jacqueline Broyer, played by Robin Givens, does the same to him. Eventually he catches on to her game and becomes interested in another woman named Angela, played by Halle Berry, who is more his speed. Fast forward, they live happily ever after.
Fast forward again, on the show Boomerang Marcus and Angela have a daughter named Simone Graham, played by Tetona Jackson. She works for her dad’s marketing agency but she wants to make a way on her own. Her friends Bryson Broyer, played by Tequan Richmond (Jacquline’s son), and Crystal Garrett played by Brittany Inge, work at the firm as well but they’re happy there. Other character fall in line like David Wright played by RJ Walker, who is their pastor friend, and Ari, played by Leland Martin, who is their bisexual friend and he’s comfortable with that and so are his friends. Tia, played by Instastar LaLa Milan, is a stripper but she quit so Simone can help build her image and her brand through Instagram.
The show is about typical millennials tryna make a way and live their life doing what they want. Simone wants a name for herself but without using her parents name. Bryson is tryna get his money but without getting distracted by Simone, since he’s crushing on her. Crystal is trying to get back in her groove since she and David divorced, they were married right after college. Then there’s Ari, living his best life. He hasn’t been on the last two episodes but he’ll be back the week of March 5. Tia is the realest and she’ll tell what it is and what she doesn’t like, especially Simone when it comes to her image.
The show definitely has good music, from Summer Walker’s “Girls Need Love,” to Mary J. Blige’s “Real Love”, to Travis Porter’s “Make it Rain,” to Brandy’s “I Wanna Be Down,” to plenty more.
Other activities and normal things that millennials do that the show address is:
Playing spades: asking how each player plays. “Do y’all play Big Joker or Deuces?”
Going to the strip club: millennial woman actually go to the strip clubs and not because we are gay or bisexual. We just enjoy the entertainment and even the chicken wings they serve lol. (No lie).
Not knowing what to do after college. Crystal married David right after college and she said “I didn’t know what I wanted to be so I decided to be someone’s wife.” Yikes!! First of all, I can relate but at the same time, marrying a guy because you didn’t know what career you wanted to pursue is ridiculous. BUT, us millennials are all about taking a risk, doing what’s best for us at the moment and figuring out the rest later.
Prepping for FaceTime calls: nowadays when you’re feeling someone and they FaceTime you, you gotta make sure your hair right, skin right, flexin ya chest, etc.
Bryson said: “Black millennials want it all. We have to be present for everything, because being young, black and gifted is cool but it’s exhausting.” To me, that means millennials want to have everything but in order for them/us to do so we have to be everywhere meeting people, networking etc. which can be very exhausting but that’s what keeps us on our toes, knowledgeable and gifted.
if you haven’t seen the show, you’re missing out. It’s really present day life shit.nthe cast is great, including LaLa Milan from Instagram, she’s funny AF, if you’ve been watching the show, how do you feel about it? Comment below and let me know.
Kehlani blessed us with some music over the weekend “while we wait” for her to give us a full album after she gives birth to her baby girl.
To me, this “mixtape,” as she calls it, gave me more of a 90s R&B vibe, as clichè as it sounds. This project reminded me of her SweetSexySavage album, which was my first introduction to her. She talks about love, relationships (good and bad), and A LOT of relatable situations on this While We Wait project.
Kehlani started off the mixtape with a feature from Musiq Soulchild titled “Footsteps.” She explains that when she walks away from a relationship when she’s mad, she expects her significant other follow her, leaving footsteps for him to do so.
“Too Deep,” is a relating song to both men and women. It’s about having a side thang and things are getting too serious, “too deep” between the two of you. Y’all arguing when y’all shouldn’t be because it’s just a sex relationship. It’s becoming too much to keep the “relationship” going.
“Nunya” is exactly what it sounds like lol, none of your business. It’s about a guy who she used to be involved with and he wants to know what’s going with her because he lost her and he still cares. Welp, WE’VE ALL BEEN IN THAT SITUATION, men and women, on both ends. He/she lost you and they know it and they still tryna keep up with you to see who you’re involved with now.
Another relating track is “Morning Glory” which is; if a guy accepts you at your best when he goes home with you at night then he needs to accept how you look in the morning, at my morning glory. It’s like a one night stand song lol.
The fifth song “Feels” is about a person who you diggin and they got you feeling them, giving you feels and making you all sensitive inside.
“Nights Like This” is about thinking about your ex on random days, wanting to text them, etc. Then you think about all the good that can come from hitting them up. THEN you think of all the lies they told you and how they’ll get your hopes up again, like they always do. RE-LATE-ABLE. You already know the BS that this person is on but you miss the good moments, then you start getting involved with the person again and they let you down again. 🗣🗣 SPEAK THAT KEHLANI!!!
On the sixth track “RPG” featuring 6lack, which is really “Show Me Your Love” is about having your partner show you that they love you and care. You may complain about them not touching you enough but they correct it, you tell them that they don’t compliment you enough and they correct it, and etc. This song is about communication to me, about talking and listening to your partner and correcting your actions.
The next song “Butterfly,” I’m still unclear on. It’s a beautiful song but I can’t really decipher it, maybe YOU can and comment your thoughts below lol 😬.
The last track “Love Language,” is about knowing what your partner likes as far as how they like to be shown that they are loved. Kehlani says she “wants to be fluent in your love language.” That’s beautiful, it’s like she wants to know what you like and execute it! Some people like gifts to show that they are loved. Some like that their partner listens to them and surprises them with non-materialistic items. Some people don’t care what their partner likes but more so what they are good as when it comes showing their love for that person (selfish 🙄🙄).
Any who, I liked this “mixtape;” I like the different positions she spoke from, like being the cheater in a relationship but also being the one catching feelings, to even being the one who has moved on from a relationship.
What are your thought about her new music. Comment below and let me know!
Also, congratulations again to Kehlani on her pregnancy!!
This was the year the Oscars actually got it right, as far as wins go. I guess the Academy can retire that “Oscars So White” title for now. Black films and people are STILL making history. Just in case you missed it:
Regina King won for Best supporting actress for “If Beale Street Could Talk”
Ruth Carter won for Best Costume Design for “Black Panther”
Hannah Beachler won for Best Production Design for “Black Panther”
Spike Lee Best won for Adapted Screen Play for “BlackKlansman”
Mahershala Ali won for Best Supporting Actor in “Green Book”
I feel that every movie that the above movies nominated, that won, were well-deserved. Spike Lee has been making movies for 30 years and he FINALLY got a Oscar. Regina King started off in movies like “Friday” and “Boyz N Tha Hood” and look where she is now. Mahershala Ali has been on FIRE 🔥 the past couple years from “Moonlight” to “Green Book.”
“Black Panther” alone has gotten Grammy nominations for its album to Golden Globe nominations to SAG award wins to now Oscar wins. Ryan Coogler, ALL the actors, everyone behind the scenes like Ruth Carter and Hannah Beachler made that the film what it was and it shows!
I’m glad the Oscars got it right year, especially coming from having all their nominees being white (#OscarsSoWhite) to having black nominees in ALMOST every category. What are your thoughts on the award show?
WOW! I’ve made it to 200 posts. I remember when I first started this blog back in 2014 and it was hard for me to put myself out there and expose my writing and thoughts to the world. Now here I am 200 posts in.
Fun fact, I made it to 100 posts last year around this time, February 7 to be exact. So when you do the math, it took me 1 years to make 100 posts, but 3-4 years to make it to 100 posts. Whew chile the progressive.
By now everyone has had time to see all 6 part of the R. Kelly Docuseries. I don’t even know where to start. I’ve been trying to figure out what angle I wanted to take on this Surviving R. Kelly. So much content, so much disgust, so much hurt, so much sadness, just so much to take in.
I’ll start here:
From watching part 1 of Surviving R. Kelly, it was expressed that he was molested at from age 7 until 14-15 by a female relative. The sexual abuse also happened to his younger brother. It seems like this sexual abuse was transferred to R. Kelly then he transferred the hurt and abuse to young girls.
Random thought: What if R. Kelly is making these young girls suffer because of what he went through from at a young age by a woman. Just a thought.
Moving along, I really do not want to bring her up but it seems like the first sight of concern of our weirdness should have been with Aaliyah. Yes, it was rumored that he married her when she was only 15 but forwarded the documents saying that she was 18. But during this documentary, R. Kelly’s former assistant Demetrius Smith said he helped forge documents of Aaliyah and R. Kelly’s marriage. Once that news was water under the bridge, it never got brought up again. I feel like Demetrius is just as guilty. Yes he is speaking out now and he admits he was wrong but that doesn’t make it write. If a rapist goes to jail and speaks out in a documentary saying he was sorry and explains why he did it, would you forgive him? FUCK NO!
Several of his victims spoke out about how they met him and the abuse they face. The trend was he would meet young girls at the mall or at concerts and woo them over then the manipulation would start. Small things from telling the girlsthat they have to call him daddy to telling them that they have to follow rules. The physically abuse started when the girls “broke a rule,” he would hit them and even starve them.
This young lady’s case bothered me a little, not only because she was a victim of sexual abuse at a young age but….SHE MET HIM OUTSIDE WHILE SUPPORTING HIM FOR HIS CHILD PORNOGRAPHY CASE, AS HE WAS WALKING INTO COURT. Now, by all mean I AM NOT VICTIM SHAMING AT ALL, but this goes to show that young girls are really naive. The poor girl was only 15 and even though the “relationship” as she calls it, lasted less than a year, she endured manipulation, signing fake documents, being slapped and spat on. Luckily she was able to get out but this case shows that, little girls are easily manipulated and Kelly knows that and he used it to his advantage. Just imagine his train of thought on this girl “oh she’s at my trial for a case that I know I did and she’s still supporting me. I can get one over on her.” He’s a fucking sick clown.
This situation was sad because she could’ve avoided him on a few occasions and SHE STILL IS WITH HIM! A lil synopsis on this girl, she was an aspiring singer and she went to an R. Kelly show with her parents, she was called from the crowd and was able to go backstage to meet him. She sang for him and later on she “auditioned” for him in hotel room without her parents. Once she was there she told her parents and they immediately rushed to the hotel to “rescue” her.But come to find out she was not in danger and she claimed that her parents were messing up this opportunity for her because she wanted to be a singer so bad. Eventually time went on in her and her parents were in contact with R. Kelly to help pursue her career. Things got weird when her older sister decided to go with her to the studio and a situation went down. What’s the girl turned 18 she pretty much was out of sight. The last time her parents seen her was for her high school graduation.
My concern is: if her parents were getting worried to the point that they didn’t want Azerial alone withR. Kelly, then that means that they have their suspicions about him and they should have told their daughter “fuck him we’ll figure out another way for you to get exposed to the music industry.” No disrespect but her parents should be held accountable for this situation. They took her with them to the R. Kelly concert, let her go backstage, let her continue to do business with him even though they had Erie feelings that he should not have been with her alone regardless of the fact that she was 17. They wanted to make their daughter happy so bad that it literally cost them and now they haven’t seen her in 2 years.
First of all, I’ve seen multiple interviews Of artists saying that they were not date girls who were super fans of their u of artists saying that they were not date girls who were super fans of theirs due to it being weird and the fans could be obsessive; so I’m confused as to why R. Kelly decided to date this woman. Oh yeah because she’s easily to manipulate even though she was actually of age and 35.
Asante and Kelly met in 2014 at a concert and eventually started dating. He told her that he had other girls but she didn’t care of course. They did the long distance relationship thing for a year-ish and when she moved in, that’s when she said he got controlling. He would lock her in room and of course abuse her. Luckily she was able to get out. My concern is: Baby Girl, you were so oblivious to the fact that he “didn’t do anything to those girls” and you still “supported him” but he ended up abusing you, he just didn’t manipulate you as much because you were a child but you were still brainwashed a bit. Again, I’M NOT VICTIM BLAMING, but you can’t put anything past nobody, especially a person who was publicly know for sexually abusing young girls and even went to court for it.
Lisa Van Allen
This young lady met Kelly when she was 17. She was involved with him the same time he was involved with him the same he was involved with the 14 year old girl. She had to participate in a threesome with him and the young girl and the encounter was recorded. Lisa was the one who found the tape with him and the 14 year old, gave it to someone who made copies, then got the tape back. By the time she got the tape back, it was too late, and copies were being handed out throughout the U.S. Eventually the tape got in the hands of the police and that’s when Kelly had to go to trial for multiple counts of child pornography. Kelly plotted to kill Lisa for exposing the tape and honestly if she didn’t then people would be even more in denial about his acts. Unfortunately he was found not guilty of the 14 counts of child pornography. But I commend her for speaking up BUT she is still kind of guilty for thinking that the girl was older but still underage. I commend her but she is still partially guilty.
To the girls who started dealing with R. Kelly because they wanted him to help their career:
WHO DO YALL KNOW THAT R.KELLY HAS HELPED MUSICALLY, besides Aaliyah? (God rest her soul).
To his ex-wife, Andrea Lee:
I’m glad you were able to escape him. My question is, how did you have two other children by him after giving the birth the day he was taken to jail for the child pornography allegations/charges? That would be a turn off for me but I understand you sticking by your man. Also, I commend you for speaking out despite the fact that you have kids with him. Speaking out about your kid’s father says a lot especially with it dealing with it dealing with abuse. I commend you.
To R. Kelly:
You are a sick individual and I hope you get ALLLLLL the bad you deserve. You will reap what you sew You psychotic, mentally unstable peace of shit.
One last thing:
His whole camp should be held accountable for their actions or lack there of. They seen what R. Kelly was doing and clearly didn’t report it. Even if he had connections with the Chicago PD, when they traveled across state lines where it wasn’t legal to have a 17 year old, his people should’ve spoke up.
What are your thoughts on the docuseries? Comment below and let me know!
As the year comes to an end, we should take the time to reflect on all the music that’s dropped this year. In June, I posted a mid-year albums released so far. If you haven’t checked it out, here it is –>2018 Albums – January to June
So, from July to December, here’s what’s dropped:
Travis Scott – Astroworld
YG – Stay Dangerous
Nicki Minaj – Queen
Eminem – Kamikaze
6lack – East Atlanta Love Letter
Lil Wayne – Carter V
Ella Mai – Ella Mai
Quavo – Huncho
Jeremih & Ty Dolla $ign – MIH-TY
Takeoff – The Last Rocket
Lil Baby – Street Gossip
Meek Mill – Championships
Trey Songz – 11 & 28
Offset still has an album to release as well.
What have been your favorite albums this year? Comment below and let me know!!