Surviving R.Kelly II Review

Part two of Surviving R. Kelly started it’s 3-night premiere on Thursday and ended Saturday. It’s title “The Reckoning”, which is defined as judgment, or even estimation. There were new women who told their story and even previous women who had more to say about their time with R. Kelly.

Night 1

During night one’s premiere, Kelly’s brother Bruce and Carey talked about their childhood and how they were sexually abused. R. Kelly had a specific encounter with the neighborhood uncle, Mr. Henry. When the police was called and Kelly’s mother wanted to press charges. Mr. Henry offered them $5,000. His mother accepted but that also started the domino effect of Kelly and him paying off his accusers. His mother did not protect him, and although they struggled growing up and needed money, his mother let him down. That incident probably left an opening to Kelly’s sister abusing him. Carey elaborated on the incident briefly. Even though they never said her name, it’s been brought to life in past interviews that their sister sexually abused them. The first part of night 1 made you want to feel sorry for Kelly, BUT we all know that regardless of his childhood, he could’ve gotten the proper help for his traumatic childhood.

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Part 2 of the series dived into a new victim, Tiffany Hawkins. She met Kelly when she was 15. She was an aspiring singer and even appeared in Aaliyah’s video “At Your Best ” and sung background vocals for her. She went on to say that her and Aaliyah were best friends. When Tiffany and Kelly got cool, he suggested her to bring around some of her friends. Mind you, these girls were 15 and 16. She says that he had sex with six of her friends. After he told her not to ring her friends around, he started having sex with her. Tiffany stated that she didn’t want to but she did it because she thought it was part of the process of pursing a career in music. 

Once Kelly married Aaliyah, Tiffany said she didn’t care because that meant she didn’t have to have sex with him anymore.  

NONE OF THIS IS NORMAL!!

She had gotten pregnant and at the time, she didn’t know if it was Kelly’s or another guy. When she told Kelly, he pretty much threatened her. She was scared but she didn’t to keep the baby and found out it wasn’t his. (Thank GOD). It’s safe to say, she was able to escape him!

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Night 2

R. Kelly’s former hair braider, Lanita Carter, spoke out about how her and Kelly’s relationship went from brother/sister to sexual. She explained that he was sweet to her in the beginning, just like he was with any other woman he took advantage of in the past. They both “connected” by telling each other about their childhood abuse. The one and only incident that happened between them was when Kelly tried to force her to give him oral sex. He spit in her face then ejaculated on her face. Lanita expressed that she was hysterical and hurt. She went to the police and at first, they wouldn’t take her serious because everyone who was close to Kelly denied knowing her. Once she proved that she knew him, everything was on the right track until the topic came up about her “settling” and just suing him and getting money out of him. She settled for that but was still traumatized by the incident.

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In the second part of the series during night 2, Dominique Gardner decides to speak out. If you don’t know, she was the young lady who was seen on TMZ with  Joycelyn Savage, then in the first Surviving R. Kelly, her mom came to the Trump towers to rescued her. As Dominique tells it, she was the rebellious one out of Kelly’s girls. She met him though Jerhonda Pace, another one of Kelly’s victims. She didn’t elaborate on a lot but  she did say that she felt bad for leaving Joycelyn at the hotel, the day her mother came to get her. Shortly after leaving Kelly, Dominique went back to him because she felt as if she left abruptly. Once she was back with him, she didn’t like how much control she had over him and while being back at home, she gained control of her life back. she’s currently pregnant and expecting a baby by her current boyfriend. (shruggs)

 

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Night 3

On the last night, the series dove into the lives of the women who are still under his control. Last year Azriel Clary and Joycelyn Savage did an interview with Gail King and when asked if they wanted to pursue singing careers, they both LIED and said that their parents wanted them to sing. After Lifetime did some digging and found old videos of them both singing and even interviewing Joycelyn’s songwriters and producer; they revealed that both women deeply enjoyed singing. Azriel has lied on her parents, allegedly, to protect Kelly. Her parents marriage has suffered due to her being away and under his control. Joycelyn’s parent are very adamant on bringing her home. They’ve been public about wanting her home, for about 3 years now.

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As of December, Azriel Clary has returned home but has chosen to live an independent life without being under her parents shadow. Since Kelly was arrested in July, she has been able to break free from him, but she still supports him. Joycelyn on the other hand, is still at the Trump Towers, which is where Kelly had been living. Not sure when she would return home but hopefully soon after seeing part 2 of series.

Last words:

R.Kelly has some serious past traumas that he never dealt with as a child. Just that  make his actions justifiable? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Hopefully him being in jail will make him seriously think about his actions. 

At this point, we have to stop blaming the parents for letting there children meet Kelly. It was a dumb ass decision and they are suffering from it now. The public AS A WHOLE. need to hold R. Kelly accountable for his actions, from not playing his music, to stop defending him. If the public would hold him accountable for his actions, then maybe more girls that have been recently involved with him, wouldn’t have been involved with him. Yes, he was on trial in the 2000’s, but there were people who outside the court building rooting for him.

QUIT TAKING UP FOR THESE SEXUAL ABUSERS. Wrong is wrong, even if he is your favorite RnB singer of the 90’s, even if you did sing one of his songs at your grandmother’s funeral or a graduation, even if you did dance to his songs at your wedding. Wrong is wrong, and his ass is wrong!

#SurvivingRKelly Review

By now  everyone has had time to see all 6 part of the R. Kelly Docuseries. I don’t even know where to start. I’ve been trying to figure out what angle I wanted to take on this Surviving R. Kelly. So much content, so much disgust, so much hurt, so much sadness, just so much to take in.

I’ll start here:

From watching part 1 of Surviving R. Kelly, it was expressed that he was molested at from age 7 until 14-15 by a female relative. The sexual abuse also happened to his younger brother. It seems like this sexual abuse was transferred to R. Kelly then he transferred the hurt and abuse to young girls. 

Random thought: What if R. Kelly is making these young girls suffer because of what he went through from at a young age by a woman. Just a thought.

Moving along, I really do not want to bring her up but it seems like the first sight of concern of our weirdness should have been with Aaliyah. Yes, it was rumored that he married her when she was only 15 but forwarded the documents saying that she was 18. But during this documentary, R. Kelly’s former assistant Demetrius Smith said he helped forge documents of Aaliyah and R. Kelly’s marriage. Once that news was water under the bridge, it never got brought up again. I feel like Demetrius is just as guilty. Yes he is speaking out now and he admits he was wrong but that doesn’t make it write. If a rapist goes to jail and speaks out in a documentary saying he was sorry and explains why he did it, would you forgive him? FUCK NO!

His Victims/Survivors 

Several of his victims spoke out about how they met him and the abuse they face. The trend was he would meet young girls at the mall or at concerts and woo them over then the manipulation would start. Small things from telling the girls  that they have to call him daddy to telling them that they have to follow rules. The physically abuse started when the girls “broke a rule,” he would hit them and even starve them. 

Jerhonda Pace

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This young lady’s case bothered me a little, not only because she was a victim of sexual abuse at a young age but….SHE MET HIM OUTSIDE WHILE SUPPORTING HIM FOR HIS CHILD PORNOGRAPHY CASE, AS HE WAS WALKING INTO COURT. Now, by all mean I AM NOT VICTIM SHAMING AT ALL, but this goes to show that young girls are really naive. The poor girl was only 15 and even though the “relationship” as she calls it, lasted less than a year, she endured manipulation, signing fake documents, being slapped and spat on. Luckily she was able to get out but this case shows that, little girls are easily manipulated and Kelly knows that and he used it to his advantage. Just imagine his train of thought on this girl “oh she’s at my trial for a case that I know I did and she’s still supporting me. I can get one over on her.” He’s a fucking sick clown. 

Azriel Clary

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This situation was sad because she could’ve avoided him on a few occasions and SHE STILL IS WITH HIM! A lil synopsis on this girl, she was an aspiring singer and she went to an R. Kelly show with her parents, she was called from the crowd and was able to go backstage to meet him. She sang for him and later on she “auditioned” for him in hotel room without her parents. Once she was there she told her parents and they immediately rushed to the hotel to “rescue” her.  But come to find out she was not in danger and she claimed that her parents were messing up this opportunity for her because she wanted to be a singer so bad. Eventually time went on in her and her parents were in contact with R. Kelly to help pursue her career. Things got weird when her older sister decided to go with her to the studio and a situation went down. What’s the girl turned 18 she pretty much was out of sight. The last time her parents seen her was for her high school graduation.

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My concern is: if her parents were getting worried to the point that they didn’t want Azerial alone with  R. Kelly, then that means that they have their suspicions about him and they should have told their daughter “fuck him we’ll figure out another way for you to get exposed to the music industry.” No disrespect but her parents should be held accountable for this situation. They took her with them to the R. Kelly concert, let her go backstage, let her continue to do business with him even though they had Erie feelings that he should not have been with her alone regardless of the fact that she was 17. They wanted to make their daughter happy so bad that it literally cost them and now they haven’t seen her in 2 years.

Asante McGee

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First of all, I’ve seen multiple interviews Of artists saying that they were not date girls who were super fans of their u of artists saying that they were not date girls who were super fans of theirs due to it being weird and the fans could be obsessive;  so I’m confused as to why R. Kelly decided to date this woman. Oh yeah because she’s easily to manipulate even though she was actually of age and 35.

Asante and Kelly met in 2014 at a concert and eventually started dating. He told her that he had other girls but she didn’t care of course. They did the long distance relationship thing for a year-ish and when she moved in, that’s when she said he got controlling. He would lock her in room and of course abuse her. Luckily she was able to get out. My concern is: Baby Girl, you were so oblivious to the fact that he “didn’t do anything to those girls” and you still “supported him” but he ended up abusing you, he just didn’t manipulate you as much because you were a child but you were still brainwashed a bit. Again, I’M NOT VICTIM BLAMING, but you can’t put anything past nobody, especially a person who was publicly know for sexually abusing young girls and even went to court for it.

Lisa Van Allen

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This young lady met Kelly when she was 17. She was involved with him the same time he was involved with him the same he was involved with the 14 year old girl. She had to participate in a threesome with him and the young girl and the encounter was recorded. Lisa was the one who found the tape with him and the 14 year old, gave it to someone who made copies, then got the tape back. By the time she got the tape back, it was too late, and copies were being handed out throughout the U.S. Eventually the tape got in the hands of the police and that’s when Kelly had to go to trial for multiple counts of child pornography. Kelly plotted to kill Lisa for exposing the tape and honestly if she didn’t then people would be even more in denial about his acts. Unfortunately he was found not guilty of the 14 counts of child pornography.  But I commend her for speaking up BUT she is still kind of guilty for thinking that the girl was older but still underage. I commend her but she is still partially guilty.

 

To the girls who started dealing with R. Kelly because they wanted him to help their career:

WHO DO YALL KNOW THAT R.KELLY HAS HELPED MUSICALLY, besides Aaliyah? (God rest her soul).

To his ex-wife, Andrea Lee:

I’m glad you were able to escape him. My question is, how did you have two other children by him after giving the birth the day he was taken to jail for the child pornography allegations/charges? That would be a turn off for me but I understand you sticking by your man. Also, I commend you for speaking out despite the fact that you have kids with him. Speaking out about your kid’s father says a lot especially with it dealing with it dealing with abuse. I commend you.

To R. Kelly:

You are a sick individual and I hope you get ALLLLLL the bad you deserve. You will reap what you sew You psychotic, mentally unstable peace of shit.

One last thing:

His whole camp should be held accountable for their actions or lack there of. They seen what R. Kelly was doing and clearly didn’t report it. Even if he had connections with the Chicago PD, when they traveled across state lines where it wasn’t legal to have a 17 year old, his people should’ve spoke up. 

What are your thoughts on the docuseries? Comment below and let me know!

Danii Gold out!

Stop Overusing the Term “King” : R&B Edition

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Anyone who knows R&B, knows that the 90’s had the best R&B. The debate is who is the “king” of R&B. If you are into today’s R&B, you may have heard of the king of “eeee”, Jacquees.

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Jacquees claims to be the “King of R&B”; I’m guessing he means of today’s generation. My issue with this is…he disregarded Chris Brown, Trey Songz, Daniel Caesar, Eric Bellinger, the list can go on. What baffles me is…Jacquees’ single   “B.E.D” was part of the bridge of R&B Avant’s song “Read Your Mind.” THEN there’s him making a Quemix to Ella Mai’s “Trip” record. I loved the remix BTW, but he’s clearly not original. He’s seen on YouTube remaking Chris Brown “Yoooo” song and Soul For Real’s “Candy Rain” videos. Oh Jacquees (eye roll).

The way I see it, there are different kinds of categories to place artists a far as the “King of R&B”. There’s different eras like the 80’s R&B, the 90’s R&B, the 2000’s R&B and the 2010’s R&B. Now, we can split those decades up by early 80’s, 90′ 00’s 10’s and the same for the mid/late decade.

For the 80’s, the R&B Kings were:

  • Luther Vandross (1981-1988)
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  • Bobby Brown (1986-1988)
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  • Teddy Pendergrass (1980-1988; and late 1970’s)
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90’s

  • Keith Sweat (1991-1998) (late 80’s)
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  • R. Kelly (1992-1998) (00’s too)
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  • Usher (1994-1999) 
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00’s

  • Usher (again; 2001-2016)
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  • Chris Brown (2005- currently)
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  • Trey Songz (2005-currently)
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  • Ne-Yo (2006-currently)
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  • Tha Dream (2007-2009) (2012-2016)
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So after that break down, you can tell that there’s some overlapping, like the 90’s singers dipped into the 00’s and the 00’s dipped into the 2010’s. These artists have worked hard enough to earn the title or even QUALIFY for being the “King of R&B”

Jacquees has started this uproar and he probably did it intentionally with his sneaky ass. BUT he had the audacity to interrupt a cameraman asking Keith Sweat about the King of R&B debate. Keith barely had the chance to answer before lil Jac-ki-ki popped up out of nowhere adding his two sense saying he was the King of R&B for the 16-25 age crowd. BOYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY PLEASE! YOU JUST CAME OUT! Luckily Uncle Keith didn’t sweat it (did ya catch that?) and said he was the King of getting the bag. Lil Jacq-ki-ki need to respect his elders in the music game, sit back, and try to sell out an arena or something.

I feel like, if you are good at something, then let someone else give you a reigning title. I don’t recall hearing Marvin Gaye and Teddy Pendergrass bickering about who was better during their time. OR Tyrese and Usher. If you are the best at your craft during a certain period of time, stay humble, at least until you win a Grammy or something. 

I’ll say it again, Jacquees needs to sit down somewhere and respect the game AND this new generation of artists need to stop overusing the term “King.” You got Tekashi69 saying he’s the “king” of New York. I’m no big New York fan but i’m pretty sure Jay-Z wouldn’t pass that torch to him. 

Let’s just pray that Jacquees humbles himself and retracts his statement.

What are your thoughts? Comment them below.

Danii Gold out!